Anyone doing a candle ceremony??

okay, we're not doing a legal one. So does anyone have a sample of their entire ceremony, non legal, that I could take a look at. I don't even know where to start!

I know a couple of girls posted their ceremonys I think Janet & Natasha, but I have no idea where I'd even find them, its been so long since I remember seeing them. Maybe I'll take a quick look

okay, I just found Janets and I remembered really liking it, so I save it on my computer for next time, anyway here's the link:

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t1682

will the person that marries you give you some ceremonies to choose from and alter? i think that's what they do at Las Caletas - they will send me something about 2 weeks before the wedding, and i can kind of customize it.

Yikes, I'd ask for it more than 2 weeks ahead of time if possible. At least you could make your decision and then get back to them at the 2 weeks - but I'm a control freak and aim to have everything done like 2 months before the wedding!! Still, two weeks to choose, and make some personal changes to it doesn't sound like very much to me!

I think I may have something from dreams for a non legal ceremony, but its so short, I mean I don't want an hour long ceremony, but I also don't want it to be over in the snap of my fingers, hahaha!

Maybe I can take what dreams sent me and add more to that and add the hand ceremony if I want to do that as well

Does anyonw know of any good wording for a unity candle ceremony?

I found these online, there are 7 different options:

(1)

"____ and ____ are going to light their wedding/unity candle, as a symbol of their marriage. The candles from which they light it represent each of them in the fullness of their personhood. They come into their marriage relationship as individuals and they do not lose their identity, rather they create through their commitment the relationship of marriage. Therefore, three candles remain lighted, one for each of them and one for their marriage as symbols of their commitment to each other and to a lasting and loving marriage."

(2)

"The two outside candles have been lighted by their parents to represent their lives to this moment. The lights, representing the faith, wisdom, and love they have received from their parents, are distinct, each burning alone. They light the center candle to symbolize the union of their lives. As this one light burns undivided, so shall their love be one with God. From now on their thoughts shall be for each other rather than for their individual selves. Their joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. Holding hands, they encircle the alter and candle to symbolize the sacrificial nature of their life journey together. May the radiance of this one light and their jouney together be a testimony or their unity."

(3)

"The two outside candles of the candelabra have been lighted to represent their lives to this moment. They are two distinct lights, each capable of going their separate ways. To bring bliss and happiness to their home there must be the merging of these two lights into one light. This is what God meant when He said: 'On this account, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall be one flesh.' From now on their thoughts shall be for each other rather than for their individual selves. Their plans shall be mutual, their joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. As they each take a candle and together light the center candle, they will extinguish their own candles, thus letting the center candle symbolize the union of our lives into one flesh. As this one light cannot be divided, neither shall their lives be divided. May the radiance of this one light be a witness of their unity in Christ."

(4)

[This one is for a ceremony that uses a unity candle with the cross and double rings design on it.] "On this their Wedding Day, they make this loving commitment, to follow the greatest Commandment of all: 'Love one another, as I have loved you.' This they do in the hope that their union shall become a symbol of God's promise to merge two devoted lives into one. The two distinct flames represent their lives to this moment; individual and unique. To bring bliss and happiness to their home there must be the merging of these two into one. Together they light the center candle. This is what God meant when He said: 'On this account a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one.' From now on their thoughts shall be for each other rather than for their individual selves. The entwining rings -- symbolize their two lives joined in dependence and growing maturity. Their plans shall be mutual, their joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. The cross -- a constant reminder of their faith in the Lord who blesses us each day, for it is He who enriches their marriage in every possible way. Thus rhey extinguish the two, forever united in the radiant oneness of God's love. Let them renew their vows each day as the memory of this joyous occassion reminds us:

The Way is Long -- Let Us Go Together

The Way is Difficult -- Let Us Help Each Other

The Way is Joyful -- Let Us Share It

The Way Is Ours Alone -- Let Us Go In Love

The Way Grows Before Us -- Let Us Begin"

(5)

"Together they light one candle from two smaller candles as they acknowlege their union as husband and wife. By allowing the flame of the two smaller candles to remain lit, they also accept the individuality of each other as a means to fulfilling their oneness."

(6)

[between the Greeting and the Opening Prayer:] "On the day of their baptism, God began in (groom's name) and (bride's name) the process of becoming a Christian. They were given the privilege of being a light, an example to the people they would meet. Their process of becoming a Christian continues today. A new dimension is added as they celebrate the Sacrament of Matrimony. Today they come here from two different families. Out of these two families, a new family will be created in the Lord. At this time, I would invite the parents of (groom's name) and (bride's name) to come forward and light the individual candles which represent the two separate families who present son and daughter to the Lord in the Sacrament of Matrimony. The two individual flames, one representing each family, will demonstrate to us in a very beautiful way the symbol of two who become one." ... [between the Blessing and Exchange of Rings and the Prayer of the Faithful:] "One in the Lord -- they symbolize this fact by lighting a third candle from their individual ones. From now on they will grow together as unique persons becoming another Christ, a light to the world."

(7)

"From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls are destined for each other and find each other, their streams of light flow together and a single brighter light goes forth from their united being." (by Baal Shem Tov)