What is everyone's thought on a bridal shower with a destination wedding?

[maridr2012]

I had one.  I've been living on my own for 7 yrs, and we've been living together for almost 3 yrs, so I have alot of things but not nice new things - and like it was mentioned above, they wont last another 15 yrs.  At first I didnt really want one because I felt like everyone was already spending alot of $ to go to the DW.  But, my future sister in law convinced me to register because there would be several people who wouldnt be going to the wedding and would still like to buy a gift, so I did. My future mother in law ended up throwing me a surprise shower, and it was so lovely and touching.  Pretty much everything I had registered for was purchased.  I registered at 2 different places - Bed Bath and Beyond for everyday stuff, and Crate & Barrel for my entertainment pieces, and I registered for things in alot of different price points.  I know this sounds so cliche, but I registered for fine china and was gifted the entire set of service for 12!  Although I have no plans of hosting Xmas or Thxgiving dinners anytime soon, I prob will be in the next few yrs so it's nice that I will have nice china already.  

 

You can always just register for the things you absolutely need and in different price points, or do the honeyfund - that'll be really nice to do things while you're on your honeymoon.

 

If someone volunteers to throw a shower for you, go ahead and let them do it.  This is one of the few times people will be making a big fuss over you, and they're all happy to share in your special day, so enjoy it!  

[TheWolferts]

I had a shower and it was nice to celebrate with a lot of people that couldnt make the trip, but still wanted to celebrate our marriage! I think a lot of people ended up not getting us wedding presents because of the expenses of the trip, so we actually got a majority of our registry items at the shower.

Originally Posted by safety75 

I'm just curious if everyone is having one or not having one since it's a destination wedding? I'm not sure if we'll register anywhere, we really just prefer money or gift cards.  What's the thought on this?

[Mady28]

I was wondering the same thing, but after giving it much thought we decided that we would like to do something like a couples shower. I know that not all of our family will be able to go to the wedding, but I would still like them to be involved in our day somehow. We are thinking that we are going to have a reception when we get back for our family and friends that wont be able to attend the wedding. I didn't think I had anything to put on a registry since my fiance and I have been living together for a few years, but turns out that there are a lot of kitchen gadgets I don't have! Either way it has been fun putting the registry together.

[alexisinjamaica]

What do people think about having a bridal shower and inviting people who have already RSVPd that they can't go to the wedding? Is it nice to still include them, or will it be awkward if there's a lot of talk about the wedding knowing they can't make it? I don't want them to think I'm inviting them just to get a gift out of them, I just would like some people who won't be able to go to Jamaica to join the shower fun!
 

[AllieH]

My friends who couldn't/didn't go to the DW threw my shower. Even though they weren't going, they wanted all of the details, to hear about the planning, etc.

 

I really think in general people won't be offended, but you know your friends & family best.

 

 

Originally Posted by alexisinjamaica 

What do people think about having a bridal shower and inviting people who have already RSVPd that they can't go to the wedding? Is it nice to still include them, or will it be awkward if there's a lot of talk about the wedding knowing they can't make it? I don't want them to think I'm inviting them just to get a gift out of them, I just would like some people who won't be able to go to Jamaica to join the shower fun!
 

[TropicalBride10]

My fiancé and I really want to have a bridal shower but we're not really sure how that's going to work since our families live in different areas of the world and it's just us and his parents here in Miami, that's the biggest reason we've decided on a destination wedding. I'd love for us to be able to have two separate showers, one with his family and one with mine, since they're mostly congregated in Virginia and Puerto Rico but the two trips are just not in our budget and it would be selfish to ask everyone to fly to Miami and then to our wedding location, most people don't have that kind of money so I guess if they want to buy us something then they'll have to mail it :/

[inloveinkorea]

Nah, we're not going to have one. First, we've been living abroad for the entirety of our engagement (about 14 months thus far).. so at this point, our engagement feels kind of like old new. Plus, like a couple of other people mentioned, I know that all of our guests are spending a bundle to get to the DR and I wouldn't dream of imposing more onto them. I'm more focused on planning the wedding anyway. 

[shan0487]

I actually had 3 showers! Everyone that couldn't attend the wedding more than wanted to be included at the shower so they could still share a part of our wedding.  I had a shower on my husband's side of the family at my mother-in-law's house, one at my MOH's parents house for my friends and my side of the family and then my work threw me a shower, so even though no one that attended our wedding got us a gift- I got a lot of my registry items from all my showers!

[Peach]

I would love one, but it is out of my hands. I have a close family in my hometown, and none of them (except my immediate family) were even invited the the DW, but I am also having an AHR... I would guess that I will have one in my hometown, and I would not be surprised at all if my coworkers (small close-knit staff) threw me something small and simple too. 

 

I WILL be registering. I worked in a kitchen store for a couple years through university, and we had a LOT of people come in upset if the bride had not registered. I think there will be a few people who will want to get something since they cannot come.

 

We are in the same boat. Have been out of the childhood homes for ten years, and living together about 9 of those years... But we can be upgrading some stuff, since a lot of our stuff is hand me downs. We will not have a huge registry (we do not expect gifts, after all, but I think some will send/bring some anyway), but will be putting a few items at different price points.

 

And maridr2012, I do not think china is cliche! I would register for some too, except that it just so happens that my mom and FI's mom have the exact same china (which I love)... and FI is an only child, so I am pretty sure I will be inheriting those pieces.

[nbateman]

people that cannot make it to the wedding are definitely looking forward to the shower, I'm assuming we'll have one...