Bridesmaid expectations

[JayKay]

I could not agree more!! I asked them to be apart of our special day, and that shouldn't mean added costs on to them!
 

Originally Posted by celticgirl 

I am not asking mine to pay for anything, they are still paying off their student debt and they are standing by my side because I wanted them too, It is not their responsibility to pay for a party that I dont really need.

 

[Kat1919]

A shower should be hosted either by an aunt/family member or a close friend of your mother. You already asking them to spend a bunch for the wedding and I think asking your BM for a shower as well, is a bit too much. They should be invited to the shower though!

 

Have any of them offered to put on the shower? That should give you some indication if it would be a burden or not. They know that most brides have a shower.