I know people aren't made of money

[jenngene2011]

I hear you ladies!!  I have been dealing with the same such as my FI friends who have invited us to their events and we spend god knows how much money on their crap and they don't even consider going to our DW because not the best time and I"'m like really you have know for a year and half.  Than there are the other set of people who get the invites because our parents wanted us to send it to them and their response is so what are you paying the flight and room or do we pay for one of them?  I'm like are f**king kidding me if we paid for everyone it would be close to $60,000 i'm sorry but i don't like you that much.  We have so far 34 guest confirmed and that is good enough for me.  If I wanted a big cookie cutter wedding I would have just had a wedding at home.  I just look at it like this if all 150 guests actually showed up to our dw I think I would have freaked I mean think about it do you want to be surrounded for several days with people that you know on vaca?  I don't.  I want an intimate wedding with my close friends and family and that is what we are having and for me that is PERFECT. 

[Ravywedding]

Amen to that, Jenn! The way I see it, if someone really wants to, they will make it happen. If they financially cannot do it, then there's always an AHR. Besides, you don't want your random great-uncle Charlie there...a DW thins out the massive family members that appear out of the woodwork.

[wilsonj2]

I've had a change of heart since I posted last...I'm actually liking what is happening now...it is going to be a very small, intimate gathering of the people who love me the most and are willing to shell out some major cash to see me get married.

[Labebita911]

FINALLY i find girls that UNDERSTAND ME!! I posted a similar comment on Yahoo/answers and recieved such negativity from people that i deleted the comment!. Its MY wedding and i have the say on what I WANT for MY wedding.. We understand this is a burden with the economy and all but lets face it most people take a vacation once a yr!!!! What's the excuse.. and half the people that are "complaining" are the one's who are always traveling "Are you serious".Anyways I myself have cried a lot over the lack of interest by some people due to this but now  I JUST DONT CARE anymore... Sorry..... Its  my wedding and its going to happen wether they go or not! ...

[barbiegirl_27]

If I can say one thing its that you will all feel better once you stop focusing on the negativity from people and focus on you and your groom. Seriously it took me a while to get there but ultimately this day is really about you and him and once you're there you won't even notice the people that aren't there. Good luck ladies! Stay positive!

[bmadzia1]

Ha... I know I posted on this thread previously, but I'll give you another one....

 

How about a guest telling you: " why did you book only a regular room".  "can't you guys afford to get a superior suite"...and "why only a semi-private dinner, you guys don't want to pay for private?"... 

 

how about you book your ticket first, and then tell me what to do!

[islandbride8]

 

 

Originally Posted by bmadzia1 

 

Ha... I know I posted on this thread previously, but I'll give you another one....

 

How about a guest telling you: " why did you book only a regular room".  "can't you guys afford to get a superior suite"...and "why only a semi-private dinner, you guys don't want to pay for private?"... 

 

how about you book your ticket first, and then tell me what to do!

 

 

 

 WTF!!!!!!!!!! you should tell them you are having a private reception, but they aren't invited. lol    

 

btw, we have guests booking better rooms than we are... they don't have to pay for anything but the room.  makes it a little easier to upgrade!  people have no common sense.

[Ravywedding]

Lol! This thread cracks me up...if only we could say whatever we wanted! I feel kinda blessed though. I've got my mom guilting people hard-core who are bs-ing us!

[geminiwanderlust]

Weddings seem to bring out the drama...it's almost bizarre.   We've been going through this too. 

[popo28]

I guess we are all in the same boat. My fiance and I got engaged 2 yers ago and told everyone right away that we'd want to do a DW. Now the wedding isnt untill March 2012 so really if anyone tells me they cannot afford it.....seriously you had 3 yrs to save 1600.00 If they really wanted to they could. My FI is italian and although his immediate fam is small and are all fine with a DW the extended fam had their own comments. Either the date clashes with a work trip or they feel that Mexico isnt safe or theres a bug going around.....cmon!!!! really?? I dont understand why ppl cant just be happy for us and if you cannot come then just be polite and say "id love to be there but i cannot, so sorry, i know your wedding will be beautiful cannot wait to see the pics. Done! But that would be too simple ppl feel the need to throw in their 2 cents and make comments and give their opinions. God give me patience to not yell out "shut up! if u dont wanna come then I don't want you there!" lol