Seating Chart

Hi Everyone!

Getting ready to start my seating chart and I'm running into some difficulties.  We're using the 72" rounds that fit 8 people but I'm wondering:

should I group the people according to how they know each other?

how many people should a guest know at the table?

my mom and siblings are quarreling at the moment (and probably the rest of their lives) and I don't want to sit them together.  is it weird if I sit all of our parents together with some of my FI's parent's friends?

can I mix ages???

Can some tables have 6 while some have 7 or 8??

gracias!

I say its your wedding and you can do whatever you want!!

I have been to tons of weddings (too many!) and know that pretty much the seating chart is only used for dinner and after everyone is done eating it basically goes out the window and people move around to visit with other people. 

I know some of the funnest weddings I have been to have been ones were I sit at a table with people I dont really know.  I always seem to get to know them and have a good time.

Do what you wish and put people where you want!!

 

Originally Posted by MrsWeiss1211 

Hi Everyone!

 

Getting ready to start my seating chart and I'm running into some difficulties.  We're using the 72" rounds that fit 8 people but I'm wondering:

 

should I group the people according to how they know each other?

 

how many people should a guest know at the table?

 

my mom and siblings are quarreling at the moment (and probably the rest of their lives) and I don't want to sit them together.  is it weird if I sit all of our parents together with some of my FI's parent's friends?

 

can I mix ages???

 

Can some tables have 6 while some have 7 or 8??

 

gracias!

so our florist told us that 72" round tables actually fit up to 10 guests comfortably which ruined/fixed my plans.  

there's no way to get all the tables to seat 10 guests which have some (even) distant relation to one another so some tables will end up having 7 and some will be tapped out at 10.

Like Jaykay predicted, I hope seated charts are only used up until dinner time...

I dreaded doing the seating chart.  I had been going over it in my mind based on preliminary guest counts and then we had people back out and then some "surprise" guests.  Some tables were pretty straight forward with groups but some had to be split and some had to be merged.  My rule of thumb was to put everyone with at least one other couple they knew.  We had 4 tables - 2 had 9 people (this was where we stuck our last minute guests), 1 had 8 people and 1 had 7 people.  So don't worry about getting them all to be the same exact count.  It looked fine and I doubt anyone even noticed.  We also had one table that was mostly our wedding party (plus dates/spouses) but also put some friends there too.  We threw away formalities and put people together who would actually talk to one another. 

Hiya ladies!

I'm totally dreading the seating arrangements too!  My parents are divorced and as much as they can still be civil when it's the two of them, my dad absolutely hates my mom's new husband, like literally can't stand the look of him.  There's a lot of family drama behind that...lol long story...but needless to say I can understand why he doesn't like him.  So with a guest list of around 35ish I'm having trouble of where to put them.  Obviously at different tables, BUT the question is: Can put my future in-laws at one of my parents tables without looking like I'm favoring either my mom or dad?  I could have them all split at three different tables although that would mean the "young" people (friends of the B&G) are also scattered about.  Any suggestions from other brides from spilt families would be great!

Happy Planning!

I personally am not doing seating charts at all.  I like the idea of everyone sitting where they want and being comftorable with who they are sitting with.  I figure it is Mexico and we are there to have relaxed, chilled out wedding.  So far there are 70 people booked for our wedding and more are still booking.  The last thing I want to worry about is where I am going to seat people and if they get offended or upset by where I place them so I am leaving that all up to my guests! 

Hm, might look like favoring one of the other if you set the in-laws with one set of your parents.. Would one big long table work instead? They could be seated on opposite ends and have other people fill in between. Just a thought

 

Originally Posted by TropicLover 

Hiya ladies!

 

I'm totally dreading the seating arrangements too!  My parents are divorced and as much as they can still be civil when it's the two of them, my dad absolutely hates my mom's new husband, like literally can't stand the look of him.  There's a lot of family drama behind that...lol long story...but needless to say I can understand why he doesn't like him.  So with a guest list of around 35ish I'm having trouble of where to put them.  Obviously at different tables, BUT the question is: Can put my future in-laws at one of my parents tables without looking like I'm favoring either my mom or dad?  I could have them all split at three different tables although that would mean the "young" people (friends of the B&G) are also scattered about.  Any suggestions from other brides from spilt families would be great!

 

Happy Planning!

Yay! I feel like I solved my rubix cube seating chart issue! I too have different number of guests at each table. Most guests know at least 1 other couple but a few "ransoms" are places with peole from the same geographical area. Not having a seating chart is tempting but I've been to weddings where I didn't know many people and got stuck at an awkward table. Ultimately, I think it's worth the effort to make sure your guest are comfortable

I think your right too...I can't look like we're favouring.  I love the look of one big table, but I find it's so difficult to talk to everyone.  In most cases you can only talk to the two people in front of you.  I was a wedding where we sat at a long table and through a 4 course meal I was stuck beside an obnoxiously drunk guest who wanted to be my new bff.  Lol, okay maybe that's an extreme example, but still 

 

Originally Posted by 82turtles 

Hm, might look like favoring one of the other if you set the in-laws with one set of your parents.. Would one big long table work instead? They could be seated on opposite ends and have other people fill in between. Just a thought

 

 

I totally know what you mean.  A colleauge of mine suggested giving it to my FI as a project.  Lol at this point i'm thinking that's great idea!

 

Originally Posted by MrsWeiss1211 

Yay! I feel like I solved my rubix cube seating chart issue!

I too have different number of guests at each table. Most guests know at least 1 other couple but a few "ransoms" are places with peole from the same geographical area.

Not having a seating chart is tempting but I've been to weddings where I didn't know many people and got stuck at an awkward table. Ultimately, I think it's worth the effort to make sure your guest are comfortable