What about the Mom's attire?

[millie]

My future daughter-in-law wants me to wear a long gown and I don't want to? Should I honor her request or go with what looks good  on me?

[katieandaron]

Millie, this sounds like the perfect opportunity to get off to a good start with your daughter-in-law.  She has asked you to do something that will make HER wedding day a little more perfect.  I think you should go along with her wishes.  Anything else is mean-spirited and will sow unhappy feelings.

 

Originally Posted by millie 

My future daughter-in-law wants me to wear a long gown and I don't want to? Should I honor her request or go with what looks good  on me?

[JanineA]

Is there any way for the two of your to compromise on something like say perhaps tea length instead. I went shopping with my FMIL but had no requirements as to what she wore I did however ask if she would mind me paying for her to have her makeup done for our wedding. She generally doesn't wear much makeup but I do want everyone to look great in the pics so just for our wedding day she has agreed to let the makeup artist put something on that looks light and natural. 
 

Originally Posted by millie 

My future daughter-in-law wants me to wear a long gown and I don't want to? Should I honor her request or go with what looks good  on me?

[millie]

Thanks for your suggestion. I need to remember it's her day and no one will remember what I wear.

[millie]

That's very nice of you to have your FMIL's makeup done. I bet that was a touchy subject to bring up. Maybe she will get into makeup when she sees how great she will look.

[Cindy*]

Hmm, I would be okay with my FMIL wearing something different that what I picked if she felt more comfortable in it, but then I am pretty laid back.  I let my bms pick their own dresses because they are all different sizes and I wanted them to feel comfortable in their outfits.  Maybe you could nicely tell her that you aren't comfortable in the long dress and that you think something else would be more flattering and ask her what she thinks of you wearing whatever you are looking at wearing.  You could just nicely mention that you think it would be more flattering on you and therefore it would look better in the pictures.  That might sway her.  Otherwise I agree with Janine about maybe suggesting a compromise such as a tea length dress.  Good luck.

[hat0112]

I think you should talk to her and see why she wants you in a long dress and go from there. I would casually mention that you look better in shorter dresses and I agree with the other girls about looking into a tea length dress as a compromise.

[millie]

Great idea. I will give it a try.

[millie]

She really wanted a black tie wedding but that has changed. That one reason I don't want to wear a long dress. Maybe I will ask her to go shopping and she will see why i like a shorter dress rather than long.

[adcarter41]

I'm sure you can come to a compromise. It doesn't sound like she's being too specific or demanding so maybe you can find something that you will both be happy with. And you are right- in the end nobody is going to remember what you wear...