Strip Club for Bachelor Party?

Here is where everyone seems to be confused. there are several types of strip clubs. Let me break it down

1. HANDS OFF that is the club where these absolutely no touching unless you pay for a lap dance. The girls dance and you throw the money on the stage. No touching the g string involved.

2. SOME TOUCHING This is the strip club where you can place the money into the g string she will come around and press up on you for a dollar and will jiggle her boobies in your face during a lap dance. YOU CAN NOT TOUCH HER during the lap dance you must sit on your hands.

3. ANY GOES This is the club where the ghetto girls are found. they have stretch marks and guts. They have to wash the pole down themselves before they go on and the club most likely has that tight smell. The woman will come around to try and get you to give them a lap dance and get the dollar in the g string > HERE IS THE CATCH if she comes to you and you put the dollar into her g string you can pretty much get a free feel. (if you know what I mean) and if you get a lap dance you can not touch her but she will get naked and leave her mark on his lap

Okay I don't mean to get graphic but I went to a strip club once in Vegas (Rhinos) and my guy friends thought it would be funny to buy me a lapdance. Being a good sport I agreed. I did not touch this girl (not that I would want to) nor do I think your allowed to. She started out in some skimpy dress then took it off and was left with nothing but a thong. She danced a little in front of me, then hopped on my lap and I swear to you was dry humping me like I had a penis. She finally got off and then proceeded to do some kind of hand stand and her legs landed around my neck with her you know what in my face. That was just too much for me. I ended the lap dance real quick.

Also I know in most places you are not allowed to touch and that's fine but its not so much the touching aspect that bothers me, its the fact that she is touching him. She has her privates on his privates, she has her cooch in his face, they bend over and pull the guys ties under their legs so that their faces are wedge into their booties, gross.

Okay I realize I sound like a party-pooper who is about 79 years old so I will stop now. LOL. Sorry didn't mean to go on a rant.

I am okay with him going to a strip club but I prefer if he doesn't have strippers come to the house! My FI has told me some stories about what goes on when they come to the house vs the clubs. The clubs have rules.

I just don't take it too seriously I guess (which is how I am with a lot of things) but it's all good fun. I don't look at it as a personal interest. Guys by nature are attracted to boobs and legs and the female body. I know that by him going to see a naked chic, it's just that, it doesn't mean anything and it doesn't involve any feelings, etc...I guarantee if you asked him what she looked like (her face) he wouldn't have a clue!!!

That is why I think I don't care. To me, the emotional part of a relationship and kissing is very important. But for him to see a naked woman means nothing and there is no connection so it's harmless!

I'm sure all of our guys are decent and respectful and it's more about them going to hang out with their buddies and just watching a show.

sorry I have to say that I don't like Erik going to Strip Clubs anymore, especially when he and his friends get drunk and I'm the one who always have to pick them up.

I'm sorry I don't like strip clubs....I know the girls are doing it to get paid but seriously there are other ways in doing so.... I know I'm broke have of the time but you don't see me running over to a strip club to get money from sleazy men...

sorry for venting...

Jaime I agree I also think that they do more to girls. LOL. I don't even want to know what else she would have done to me if I let her.

~Michelle you are so right, they do much different things if you bring them to your house. Well actually that's not fair to say, not all strippers are the same but some are willing to do a little more if you pay them the right amount. I guess your right its all in good fun. But if my FI wants to have fun he can invite his friends over for Scrabble b/c I'm going to kill him if I find out shady things went down.

Ok honey for your bachelors party steve mike and them are coming over for a rousing game of Parchese and finger sandwiches.

Lawrence's dumb friends would be happy watching the Godfather or what is that other mafia movie.

Hi. OK - so I've never been a fan of strip clubs. I pretty much find them gross, disrespectful, etc. Well, FI's friends plan to take him to one (probably more) for his bachelor party. He's gone over the course of our relationship a couple of times, and I've never been thrilled.

I know everyone says that it is a right of passage, etc. I just have a problem with him having some girl's breasts in his face 6 days before he marries me. I'm not trying to be a nagging, bitchy fiance/wife, but I think I have a right to expect this much of him. It's not like I'm asking him not to play golf or have friends ... I'm asking him not to have a strange girl rub her naked body on him.

I've been totally stressing over this ... I talked to FI about it, and he basically thinks I need to relax and says that its his bachelor party and he can't reallly control what they do ... right.

Did this come up with anyone's FI? If so, how did you handle it. Also, please feel free to tell me that I'm being ridiculous ... I just don't want to be upset about it so close to the biggest emotional day of my life.