I may have to ask a friend not to come

Just saw this thread and just wanted to say, good for you. I know how hard it is to confront a bad friend and you should be breathing a sigh of relief that you got it over with now instead of doing so at your wedding and having to sooth the hurts of your other friends and family that she caused.

 

Things like this make me so incredibly thankful that I parted ways with a best friend that was very negative and controlling about two months before I got engaged. I can't imagine dealing with her crap while planning a wedding.

Yeah I am doing ok with it... It wasn't my plan to attack her the way I did and I did truely have a plan to talk things out with her about how I was feeling... She jumped on me as soon as I got there and I lost it. I really hate making someone cry. I really didn't want to hurt her feelings, i kinda behaved the way she does.

Since then there has been 5 emails from her and she dropped by the house without calling and I was next door at my neighbours house, so poor FI had to listen to her for a hour. Poor guy lies for me and said "I was out with my son and we took his car". Then he get the whole "oh my god I don't understand she is so upset with me and i don't understand what I have done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah... I am getting the guilt "she made cry so hard I had to go home I couldn't talk I was shaking so hard"..... Did I mention we're grown women in our 40's.. This is bloody high school drama and I am kicking myself for not dealing with this along time ago. Oh well "it's out there and it's done". I just wish I handled it better...

Take Care Ladies
I just needed to vent.

oh man thats a tough one. but if she is saying herlself she wont be able to kepe her mouth shut you may have to ask her not to come. the last thing you want is someone there that is making rude comments and puting everyone else in a bad mood.

 

just rip it off quick like a band aid....

That is just her last ditch effort to give you a guilt trip and make you feel like you're being the bad friend. It's crap and don't believe it for a minute. Any grown woman should be able to deal with conflict like this and take responsibility for her actions and realize that she has pushed you away with her constant criticism of everyone around her. I hate to say it hun but if she was like that about other people chances are she has or its only a matter of time before she starts picking you apart like that to your face or behind your back.

 

No one needs that, especially not you who is trying to plan a wedding.

i agree.  If she can't behave like a friend, she's not a friend.

Wow .... It's your day

Do what makes u happy

It's YOUR wedding. If she's going to make you unhappy or add any extra stress, do what you need to do