"wtf" is wrong with people?

I am sooo angry right now!! Our guests must pay the remainder of the cost of our wedding trip by Thursday of this week. They secured their spot with their deposits months ago, they knew about the wedding costs months before that. I sent std, I sent e-mail reminders, I sent e-invites, I sent formal invites, all with all the info they could possibly need including the amounts, and the timelines, owing. Over the past two weeks I have sent more e-mail reminders telling people the final amount was due, I also left messages.

My entire family paid in full, they even paid early enought to get the early booking bonus, all of my friends have paid. Evertons family, no one has paid! I mean no one! Not his mother, brother, sister, gradmother, or anyone else, in total there are 12 people who owe their money. I have tried all week to reach them and none of them bothered calling me back, I finally get a hold of Everton's brother and he says that he can't come he doesn't have the money. I talked to his mom, and she says that none of them think they can come up with the money, are you F#%#ing kidding me!! She says in her Jamican way, No Worries, we will figure it out, we won't miss the wedding, we just can't pay this week. Well when do they expect to pay, I told her they are all going to lose the deposits, and then their seats will go back into the system, we do need to worry! Everton's aunt isn't even here she went to Jamaica this week and sent me an e-mail saying she hopes she isn't inconveniencing me, she will pay later

They are messing up my rooming lists, I have some single friends staying sharing rooms with some of these people, how am I suppose to tell my friends they need to pay a single supplement, I can't we will end up having to pay it. I also upgraded one of our childs to adult fare so E mom could have her own room, now I am out that money! I also have gone to alot of work making up my oot bags, I ordered cups and fans for everyone, and parasols for all the women. I have also sent my wc my dinner #'s.

The other thing I am annoyed about is E mom invited her best friend, who is bringing her husband, and 2 bratty grandchildren. I was not happy about this at the time but I just decided to deal, and make the best of it, now they hve paid and I am going to be stuck with these people I barely know who I originally didn't want at the wedding, and I am sure they aren't going to be happy either cosidering they will know no one.

I just can't believe how inconsiderate these people are, I feel bad for Everton this will mean no one in his family will be at our wedding. I feel that they didn't care enough about us getting married to bother saving, I don't get it. We have always had issues over his family, because they never liked the fact that I was white, they are not close to our son, they don't even remember his birthday, and I was hoping this would change things by spending time with us, and Liam, and they would learn to love him.

I don't understand how grown people with jobs and houses can not come up with $1000.00. I really feel that it would have been better if they had said no right from the beginning, then I wouldn't be so upset, and neither would Everton. E tries to find excuses for his family and I don't want to hear it, they have never seemed to take the wedding seriously, this trip seemed like it was going to be more about partying to them then our wedding.

I am having a bar-b-q soon to hand out our oot bags, what am I suppose to do give them the bags anyway, I don't know how I am even going to be able to look at all of them right now!! I am just so angry and hurt.

Kelly~

Kelly

Wow that is not cool! Isn't it odd how friends are more accepting and accommodating than our relatives? Seems like friend just jump on board and try to figure out how to cause you less stress but family jumps into the lake screaming and kicking when you try to pull them out. I hope this all comes together for you soon!

OMG, that is too bad. Especially since you have spent so much time on reminding them. Has your FI tried to talk to them?

Kelly, I'm so sorry, thats horrible. I agree with you, we've had similar problems with FI's family, and you're right, grown adults shouldn't have a problem saving $1000 when they have months to do it. But as we all know people are ridiculous and inconsiderate. I hope for yours and Evertons sake they realize what they're missing out on and get their act together.

I'm so sorry that is happening, Kelly! That is REALLY inconsiderate - it makes me angry just reading about it. I am crossing my fingers that everything works out for you!!

kelly,

that is just rude...unfortunately i deal with it everyday.

you have no idea how many people think that the deadline does not apply to them.

when they say, payment due by x-date they think they can pay whenever they want.

it is such a pain to deal with.

Wow! That really sucks. Sorry to hear that you guys have to deal with all that drama now.

And yes, most adults can save up 1000 dollars for the wedding of a FAMILY member. And if they can't, its up to them to act like adults and let you know right from the start. I am sure that you would have been more than willing to help find some creative solutions to money problems.

Most important thing to remember though is that it is your, your future husband's and your sons day. You three are what really matters the most on that day.

Oh, Kelly I"m so sorry all of this is happening. Hopefully they can get their act together ASAP....

This is just crazy, and I feel so bad that you have to deal with this. As a side note though, if they don't come, you don't have to deal with them while you are away and they will feel like total assholes for missing your wedding. (Worst case of course).

You need to get your FH to call his mother NOW and tell her its serious and she has to pay for it, charge it, take out a loan, whatever, its your SONS wedding.