How many will show? Budget worries

I have experience from people I was def sure will come and arent...dont worry about it just yet..you will see that many people shy away from destination weddings and get selfish when it comes to attending.

just relax for now..youll have plenty of time to stress

and congrats

Hmm... I don't agree with saying that people are 'selfish' if they don't attend a wedding. Some might not be able to afford it, or they may have other committments, or they have an aversion to flying, or really any number of reasons...
I don't think that it's selfish to not attend a wedding, destination or otherwise.

I do agree to not stress about the # of people now -- enjoy the wedding planning

You're right..maybe selfish is the wrong word..and maybe im being biased because of certain people that have said they arent coming 2 our wedding and their reasoning..so i take back the selfish lol

I sent out about 75 and I only have 30 confirmed and maybe only 5 more that will show. The only reason we ended up with 30 at all is that over half of them are my close family. Unfortunately quite a few people, friends in particular, will not be able to make it or are last minute which does make things tricky!

 

Personally I think you may want to change your budgeted number to 75 people and that would be safe. Do you have a big family? We made a list of all of our friends and family and categorized, YES, NO & MAYBE. We allocated about 10 spaces for maybe people within our final budgeted number.

 

Plus you have time here. Your wedding is in May 2010. A good idea is to see what people are saying after Christmas. That's the make or break holiday

oooh sorry bout that...
I haven't had to deal with that situation yet.. we only just sent out our STD cards and don't even know who is saying they're coming......

aww thats ok..happy you havent dealt with it and hopefully u wont have to..but if you do its a crappy feeling

It is a tuff call to make when the best time is to send them...but I say go for it in mid January even though they just had holidays. They will still have time to ponder it. I was really concerned because we sent ours out first wk in AUG and they have to respond by mid SEPT before I release rooms. Many that have booked their air have yet to make a deposit on resort. I am currently trying to think of away to remind them these rooms have to be released...we did share that info on our invitation travel insert!! The good thing about sending our now was that some of my aunts and uncles are bringing their families as christmas gifts...I am soooo siked! Best of luck!!

is this room release because you went through an agent? or the hotel is requiring you to do that?

I send out 80 some invites about 145 people and we have 64 coming so far and more talking about it, It is nuts.

I wouldn't stress too much about it. I think you will be just fine within your budget. You'll have a much better idea by the time you send out your formal invites in January.