Calling all *Curvacious* women!!

And you better hurry girl, time's a ticking!!! lol

I only just found this thread! Great idea.

 

When i went to buy my wedding dress (just in the last 2 weeks - but done, yay!), i had some pretty intimidating sessions at some of the bridal shops, as the only try-on dresses were sizes 6, 8, 10. I was totally floored, as i've been told by many that wedding dresses generally fit 2 sizes larger than your street size! I had to marvel at the logic, as isn't it easier to get an idea of style with a dress that's larger than one i can barely get over my shoulders!

 

Nonetheless, i had fun coming out in the size 10's with the waist resting on my shoulders asking: "how does this look?" needless to say, i didn't spend much time in those stores.

Hey ladies I think I did alotta bitching ab my weight in the biggest loser forums but bc most girls were tryna lose weight i felt bad ab it. My FI is a big guy and he loves my size. When i was working out (for like one week lol) he thought my thighs were getting smaller and he freaked out. He never knew the small me. But up until my jr year in college I was 122lbs, (we met my 3rd semester as a senior lol)... Now I'm pushing 190. I have truly given up on trying to lose weight. But I do want to try to maintain where I am. I want to get a new swimsuit as well. I got 2 last summer but one got ruined. I then got one more from marshalls so the 2 I have are one pieces. I want to get a new tankini before our wedding cruise.

pissing myself laughing over here! best description of trying on dresses that don't fit EVER!

i will ALWAYS remember my MOH with her foot in my back tugging on the ties for the corset back dresses saying WE WILL MAKE IT FIT!!! ten pounds of shit in a five pound bag!

lol too funny girl!!!!!!

I went to a store for full figured women which made me feel so good cause they had to use clips on me! I lucked out going to stores that had many sizes to try on. There were size 10's I wanted to try on and 8's but yeah right I didnt even dare.

I'm sorry to hear how you are feeling -- I have had that exact same feeling and I know it truly sucks. I too have been all over the map and at one point I lost weight (to size 11/12 actually) -- I still had more to lose but was not super unhappy with myself. Then I ballooned up and gained 60 pounds and wear a 18/20 and could not believe when I saw myself in photos. For over a year I stayed at that weight/size, depressed as hell, and in complete denial. I tried not to get into photos. I called myself a "whale", a "moose", a "giant fat ass" and in my head, when I look in the mirror, I really, truly saw a worthless piece of sh*t. I constantly cried, getting "dressed up" for a fancy occasion was a nightmare -- always in tears, always feeling like I was going to be the fattest person there.
I am still overweight, I have lost about 21 pounds since January (8 of it this week on the CYWT diet) and I am finally motivated -- and I'm really really trying to stay positive. I still berate myself and my FI tries to 'correct' me.. I realize just how much I put myself down -- (constantly!!)
Anyway I'm kind of rambling about myself here .. I just wanted to give you some background on how I know what it feels like to be where you are right now...
Going forward or backwards at this point is completely in your power. As crappy as that sounds, it's true. You can be overwhelmed/depressed and such and that will likely result in more weight gain/negative self image, or you can try to start healthy eating/dieting. I hated when I heard people say that to me. My depression/low self esteem would take over and I would really truly believe I could NOT do it. Please remember you CAN do it! It is unbelievably difficult but you really CAN do it.
Starting out - I know how completely difficult it is to start out on anything (and believe me, I'm 37 years old and have NEVER succeeded on reaching my goal weight -- even when i was the 11/12, I still had 30 or so more pounds to lose) and I know how even more difficult it is to stick with something.
You may even fail a few times but the important thing is to always get back up on the horse and start over. Rome wasn't built in a day
Try not to beat yourself up --Every time you look in the mirror, try to say something positive about yourself and don't think or vocalize the negative thoughts. I am in the process of trying to do this, and it is hard, but I think worth it. Instead of looking in the mirror and crying, thinking how fat I am, I try to say, "gee my hair looks nice today" or "ohh, i did a good job with my makeup" , or "these shoes make my feet look smaller" -- even if it's nothing to do with my weight, it's a positive thought rather than a negative one. I think, over time, it will help with my self esteem.

Rambling on here -- bottom line is, please PM if you want to chat.. I am happy to talk and provide support... You CAN do this, it's more about being in the right frame of mind.. the right food choices seem to be much easier when you're feeling good about yourself... Don't beat yourself up about how you got to where you are. You're here now and as sucky as it is, you can take the positive attitude and do something about it.

Also, don't think you can all of a sudden change 100% everything about your diet and plan to go to the gym 5 days a week -- it won't happen, you're setting yourself up for failure.. set realistic small goals as opposed to giant ones that seem unattainable. Don't plan an unrealistic diet that you cannot keep up .. figure out what will work for you .... . PM me if you need anything, seriously. I would love to help

EDIT: I read your subsequent posts and I am so happy you are on the right track.. !!

I wasn't aware they even had bridal stores like this - but that's great! I think it would be much less stressful than worrying about how to squeeze into a size 10 sample!! What's the name of the store (if you don't mind sharing)? I'm guessing it's probably just a independent store, but it would be great if it was a chain

Hi to my favorite ladies to swap shopping details with!!

 

My epic teasers are up:

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...114#post946378

 

I am wearing a mossimo dress from target, and shoes from target too!

Gorgeous! You look fabulous!