Whose ring is it anyway?

haha, i have this conversation with my FI all the time. he also gave me my ring on the night of my birthday and I told him that because of that i get to keep it. But he was actually "smart' about the whole thing...he gave me a pair of yellow stud earrings as the "gift" and then proposed. so i guess i did not luck out!

Its a gift to me however the stone is a family stone and if we break up I promised his mom that I would atleast give the stone back!

ETA: I would give it back anyways!!!! My first marriage we kept our rings. With the placed we purchased the rings you can get something else double the value So diamond earrings are in my future

If my ex became an ass I would throw it back. Have no desire tohold onto something that is a negative reminder...

Just wanted to let u girls know that as of last night he said I can keep the ring as long as I dont take him to child support (we just dealt with a nasty experience with his ex)!! No problem there I don't plan on having children until I am financially stable on MY OWN!!!

LOL my fiancee and I are both attorneys and have had this comical debate ad nauseum. We finally did some research on the topic and the answer is....it depends.

It depends on what state you live in and when you were given the ring. Ownership of personal property is determined by state law, either the state the ring was given in or the state that he sues to get it back in. Most states will make you give it back.

That being said, if you got the ring around a holiday (such as Christmas, your birthday) or any other special day (like your year anniversary etc) states are almost uniformly in agreement that that sucker is yours!

Ugh, I just realized I'm really a nerd and that was way more info than anyone ever wanted

Last year, in Tennessee, it was ruled that a ring, no matter when it is given (like holidays or such), it is received on the contingency of marriage. If the man breaks it off, it remains the womans. If the woman breaks it off, it belongs to the man. It legally becomes a gift when you are married, and then belongs to the woman no matter what.

The exceptions are only if the ring was purchased by the woman for herself, or if the ring was already owned by the woman (heirloom or such).

A lady got an engagement ring as a gift for Christmas and wanted to keep it when she called it off. The man sued and won. So that's when they created the law. It was big news down here for weeks.

I would keep it, it's a gift and you don't give back everything you ever got each other if it doesn't work out.

I too was once engaged, he broke it off. I kept the ring. I HAVE NO CLUE WHY I KEPT IT.... I gave it to my sister to hock. When she wanted to give me the $$, I told her to put it toward her travels... I didn't need any memory of the @$$.