Day Passes for guests... to pay or not to pay

Intially we had said that we would pay for day passes for a couple people who were talking about staying at another resort. Well, then it got out of hand and I had abour 6 people who wanted to stay at another resort!

I apologized and sent out an e-mail that told everyone that due to budget cut backs and the growing number of ppl who wanted to stay elsewhere, that we would not be able to afford to pay for day passes anymore. Now everyone has booked and is staying at the same resort.. I guess they didn't want to pay for the day passes.. but expected us to?? Hrmm?

My brother and my SIL are staying at another resort and that is it, so we told them that we would pay for them since they are the only ones... just not to let anyone know we did that

I personally don't think you should have to pay for the day passes. If they have known for awhile where you were staying then they should have factored that into their budget.

I agree with what everyone is saying. I wouldn't pay for their guest passes nor their guests. The couple they are staying with are their guests and they should be paying for that couple.

So far we only have 3 people not staying at the resort. Thery are staying at a timeshare and we are going to pay their fee- BUT it's because I totally dropped the ball and forgot to add that info on my website.

I would pay for the guest passes of the people you invited!! Not the people they are staying with who decided to tag along!!! That is crazy to me.

I agree that you should not feel like you HAVE to pay for day passes for people. If your wedding reception was at a hotel in your hometown you would not pay for peoples rooms, right.....your guests are making the decision to come to your DW and the expense comes with it - so I don't think you should have to feel like you need to pay for the day pass, as long as you let them know if they stay somewhere else they will have to pay the extra fee.

I would ONLY pay for someone's guest pass if:

1. You knowingly selected an Adults Only resort but there are several families with children you have invited (i'd pay for the family's day passes)

2. The guest has communicated to you that due to financial strain they are going to stay at a lesser expensive hotel

Don't give guests the option of making life more difficult for you!!

I might in the minority, but I would pay for the guest pass (of the people you actually invited at least) - if you ask me, asking them to pay for a guest pass (or a pass for ceremony/reception only if that's allowed) is like asking them to pay an admission fee for your wedding. It's sort of like asking them to buy their own dinner at your wedding in a way.

If you think about it, they are flying down and paying for a hotel (even if it is a cheaper hotel) so they are spending a lot of money already to come just for your wedding. And money must be a concern, or they wouldn't choose a cheaper hotel - so I think it is only fair you buy their dinner and drinks at your wedding..

As for their friends, that's up to you - I wouldn't pay for them and even though they are their ride, they are doing a favor for them, not for you - I don't think you have to invite extra people just because they are giving your friends a ride.. but I guess it would be generous to allow them to come, but I wouldn't pay extra $ for them if I were you.