One month to go...and we just had a HUGE fight!

Its completely normal to be so stressed out and fights blow up close to the wedding. I know we had a big fight about a month before too, but i couldnt tell ya what it was about now. And DO NOT breakdown and get the gm gifts. If he knows that he can just not do it because you'll cover for him, he'll always be like that. So hold your ground, and dont do the last 2 things hes supposed to take care of. I wouldnt even nag him about it, maybe in a week ask if he did them. kind of like a reminder kind of thing. The more you nag him, the more he'll be annoyed with you (even though its his fault for not getting it done) and he wont want to do it.

Yeah I've done it too only I said sort yourself out or get our permanently I've had enough lol He comes home on leave and he's straight on his laptop or his PS3 so I took the fuse out and hid one of his fav games that stopped that lol

Once I had the blow out I felt so much better. Saying that I've been asking him to do the invitations (the one thing I've asked him to do) for 3 months and they are sitting on the floor - they will stay there cause i'm not doing them lol

You are not alone, we have had a LOT of fights about the wedding..mainly because his mom is causing friction and has just made the whole planning process a nightmare.

I think that you nailed it all when you said that pretty much this time of year is causing you stress...that'll do it.

hey darlin.. the way i look at it is:

you are way stressed, and he is too! i think it is PERFECTLY normal.. and really, don't believe that there is truly anyone out there that has had a relationship without having a huge fight. it's how y'all will learn more about eachother! my FI and I had a blow out about 1 week before our "first wedding date" (we pushed back our wedding because of the stress of dealing with my masters program)..at the time i was thinking, "sh!t! i cant believe that i would have been marrying this a$$hole in one week!!" but looking back, it was REALLY good for us! you need to learn how your FI fights, and he needs to learn how you do, so that when you fight in your marriage (because face it.. it most likely will happen from time to time) then you know that you'll make it through it!

If you are anything like me (stubborn and proud) you dont want to apologize (you most likely did nothing wrong, because you are perfect...like me!)..but sometimes, thats all they want to here.. so if it helps, I say go over to him and say hey,..I'm sorry about that fight. I love you so much,.. we both just are so stressed right now, but I want you to know that there's nobody else I'd imagine spending the rest of my life with.." chances are, everything is gonna be just fine! good luck!!

Everything said is quite normal and I think we all have experienced in some way.

I agree with Deb and I said the same thing to my hubby. If he didn't go get the gifts they got nothing and left it at that. My girls were taking care of. he did eventually go get them. The weekend before we left and I didnt give a hoot.

It all goes along with not treating your FI like a kid, rather as a partner. When we first got together C would never make a decision about ANYTHING, like where to go/what to make for dinner, what movie to see, stuff like that. So then I make the decision and he mopes, cause he really didn't want stir fry, he wanted XYZ. I just said tough titty, maybe you will learn to speak your mind then.

Another classic guy-ism is the stupid little shit like not wanting to call for pizza, doctor/dentist appointments and stuff. "no you call". WTF guy! I'm not your mother over here and your hand and mouth sure as shit ain't broke, and I don't know your schedule. Call yourself!!

I think it is totally normal when you are stressed. Me and my FI have some big fights, but what maters is how long it takes to make up and how much you love eachother. Hang in there!