Your Fiance....

I'm not even sure if FI knows what date we're getting married!!! He knows that we leave for the sun on January 18th...but everything else is pretty much up to me. I did put him in charge of his stuff...clothes, sandals, BMs gift & most of that is taken care of. I'm pretty sure I won't be able to get him to do the TTD shoot - he says the wedding day is my day, but the rest of the "trip" is his time to relax & not be running around having pictures taken, etc! It really pisses me off!!! This is our wedding week -Not just a vacation (although I am looking forward to some R&R too!!) I'm hoping I can sit him down in front of the computer long enough to show him some pics & maybe he'll get it - but I won't hold my breath!!

This is a good thread to read.

My fiance and I had a big blow out about this same topic about a month ago. lol

I didn't even want a wedding in the first place... I was fine with keeping it simple and sweet and just do the Justice of the Peace, but he wanted to have a wedding for his family and friends. One day I brought up something and he flipped and said he was not interested in hearing abut wedding planning at all. So I basically said "Fine!" and called it all off, since I was doing all the work by myself. Well, long story short and after a very long night, the next day he was very apologetic and we sat down and discussed what kind of support I needed from him. Now he just brings up things we should do for the big day out of the blue, and he tries to tentively listen (or pretends to listen ) when I ping him on an idea.

I'm okay with doing the work, but I just needed his support... and his credit card... now and then.

I think all couples go through this at some point. Of course, I think I'd wish he weren't so involved if he had TOO many opinions. lol

Well im glad to see that im not the only one with a un-involved FI! Seriously, I made the mistake of trying to involve him in picking out a monogram for the wedding the other day... Not so much! Not to mention we have very different style tastes!! You gotta love em' though!

I have to tell you girls becareful what you wish for. I had the oppisite. Mine had an opinion on everything and I couldn't get anything done. I actually had to start a thread on what to do with a FI that has an opinion. This help me get thru it without really hurting him. LOL. Good luck ladies.

Trust me, you are definitely NOT alone here!!!

My FI is involved sometimes. He wants me to give him projects...and I have, but I have yet to see anything come of those projects, LOL. I am the kind of person that would just rather get it done myself than delegate, which is normally bad, but I love planning this wedding, so in this case it works out.

We shall see if he makes us a sand ceremony frame, if he has clothes for the wedding day, and if he finds a cake topper (since he doesn't like anything I have shown him).

I am with you girls! FI is not involved at all, we have picked out a location & thats it so far. I want it some time in the summer of 09 but that is coming up soon..

omg, i'm so glad to hear that i'm not the only one with an uninvolved FI. I keep reading about how others are so involved and mine could care less - just wants to know where, when, how to look, what to say -- typical man! Oh well, I'd probably want to kill him if he gets too involved. Can't live w/em, can't live w/out em!