Dealing with Families and a DW....

Mixie23: Ok, I can soo relate to this situation. Long story short, FH picked brother as best man, over a year to save, we paid for bridal parties rooms for 3 nights a couple AI. Brother complained about $ from day 1, all he had to do was buy his girlfriend and his plane tickets which back then were reasonable everything for both of them was included. Guess what, ends up it wasn't about $ at all. That was his excuse, he didn't want to come or be bestman. Well he is not. If anyone is giving you an excuse especially family, then accept their reasons (even if they are BS) and move on. Pushing them being there will only make more problems down the road. Trust me on this one. My FH is soo let down and disappointed by his brother they don't even talk now. But that was his brother's choice. Good luck!

oh nicole i wanted to add, i wouldnt change your plans to accomadate people. You should do what makes you and your fi happy. if dreams is where you want to be married at i would stick with dreams. Chances are if you picked a resort that was cheaper, the same people still wouldnt go.

Thanks guys, I guess its just good to know that I am not being crazy here. Hopefully we will be able to work something out with them because the stress is totally getting to my FI.

As you can tell from reading the boards, this is something that alot of DW brides have to deal with. My FI and I let everyone know over a year and half a head of time that we are planning a DW and what it would cost. (Around $1300 for 5days/4night) I worked really hard to make sure that our resort was not to pricey and that airfares were reasonable. But, even after all of this advance notice, people that said they would come are now saying that there is no way they can save the money. Honestly, I am okay with this. The most important people in my life are all coming and have not complained about the cost. My parents are being very generous and paying for my MOH and my siblings because they know how important it is too me. My FI's parents are playing for his best man and siblings. We are lucky to have such supportive parents.

You are being totally generous in offering to pay for the best man, and in my opinion he should accept your generousity and come to the wedding for his brother. It won't kill him to be away from his famiy for a few days.

Everything will work out....it always does. And as long as you have the wedding that you and your husband to be want, nothing else matters.