I am FUMING!!!!

Thanks Sara! I was planning on sending an email to all 3 but I wanted to talk to Eric first and lay out the options before I did anything. I should have known everything was going way too smoothly...something had to eff up!!

I would be so upset with your friend for putting you in this situation!!!

And I agree with Michelle.. why should Erik have to pay more $$ just because 2 ppl want to hook up?!?!?

The realistic and more reasonable part of me though.. agrees with the other suggestions. Either all three should split the cost someway or maybe you can suppliment part of Erik's cost as payment for the photography.

Either way, good luck!!!! Your friend really needs to hear how much this is stressing you out and how this is not the right thing to do!!

Well...the latest & greatest is that Eric is not answering my calls or emails. I had my MOH (who is really tight with him) call & find out what the hell is going on! Well...he gat mad at her & told her was cancelling & that was it...end of discussion. So there is something definitely fishy going on!! I will have to contact Angela...maybe she knows what's going on!? I had a little cry on my way home from work & I feel a bit better now! It's just so frustrating...especially since he was supposed to be my photographer!!

Sorry you are going through all of this, Amanda.

If you have people changing plans on you this close, I can't wait to deal with the scenario changes for my wedding in 3 years lol

Thanks kaiko!! It definitely sucks!! I thought things were going so smoothly!!

Now...I just received another email, this one from Chris saying he is cancelling. He didn't realize how much money it was going to cost!!! Come on...you should have figured this out BEFORE you booked!! Dumbass!

That is 3 people throwing away their deposits...$450 total! Geesh.

I'm to the point...I don't even care anymore. My biggest concern is getting a photographer with a zero budget for it!

Thanks Kat...people to suck!! Except for all my BDW friends!! I wish all of you could come to my wedding instead of my "real life" friends!! lol

I had a photographer lined up a couple months ago...she was offering a fantastic deal - $1500 for her & an asst...with no travel expenses & a pre-wedding shoot as well. But honestly with the house we just can't afford it. And FI is not willing to pay that much for "some pictures". He is so not into the wedding stuff. Just wants to go on vaca & get hitched in the process. Oh my....

people just suck. so sorry you're dealing with this crap so close to your wedding.

sounds like your close friend eric is just really pissed off that this happened to him, and can you blame him? he probably was really excited to go and it was ripped out from under him! if he's not answering calls, i'd send him a long email saying how sorry you are this happened and you would still really love for him to be there. let him know his friendship is important to you, and that you would love to try to work something out.

are you working with a travel agent? is there any way the other two "lost deposits" can just be applied to eric's room?? LOL probably not, but didn't you say it was like $400 worth of deposits on the room? that's a nice little chunk of the cost already paid! maybe he could stay fewer days?