Why is the thought of changing my last name freaking me out?

I feel the same way! FI and I had this conversation this weekend. I don't want to change my name, but he wants our future family to be united under one name. A friend and her husband both changed their names to a hypenated version of their last names. So, it's Joe Hislastname-Herlastname and Sally Hislastname-Herlastname. This isn't an option for us as our last names will be so long! We talked about picking a random last name for both of us to keep things fair, but I don't know about that. Right now, my plan is to avoid the situation for as long as possible

I think I will go through a bit of an "identity crisis" when I change mine, but my last name has caused me to spend who knows how much time in my life explaining how to say it, how to spell it, that it is not Polish or Japanese, etc... So I am actually a little excited to go from Kosatschenko (12 letters) to Rust (4 letters). But everyone knows me because my last name is so long and so unusual, so that will be a little sad.

Not sure what I will do about my nickname either - KatyKo (because no one can say my last name!!)

Well...I'm more than happy to change my name...I think Amanda Merrigan sounds really nice!! Plus my last name now is my Dad's who is kind of a weiner!

My FSIL just got married in August and her husbands name is Foote...she wanted to incorporate both last names & the two of them change their name to Merrifootegan!! She's such a nut!

I know this is going to sound horrible, but I can't wait to drop my current last name. I won't bore you all with the long details but it's my dad's last name and he and I (and pretty much his side of the family) do not get along and I haven't spoken to my dad or have seen him in almost ten years.

My FH's last name is more difficult to spell for people but I don't care, I know I'm going to love being Mrs. ___, as corny as that might be.

I know exactly how you feel. Fortunately, my husband said that he doesn't mind me keeping my maiden name. He said I can even hyphenate it as well. It's hard to let go of your maiden name...if you really don't want to change your last name don't do it! At my old job, I still had people referring me by my last name as well because it was just easier.

I don't really mind changing mine either, its Nielsen, so pretty un-original...my fiance is Italian so his name is more fun! But I do understand the tght of changing it & the first time I saw my friend write it out for fun, was really weird & frightening!

I'm indifferent about changing my last name or not. But one thing's for sure, I can't hyphenate it. My last name is Oh. If I put it before FH's last name, it sounds Irish/Scottish, and if I put it at the end, his last name is an italian last name and I end up sounding like a can of Spaghetti-O's. LOL!

Yes- I totally get it. I freaked out too. My hubby kinda took it personal and I kept trying to explain it wasn't him- it's just giving up your identity. It's hard thing to wrap your head around. I might not have changed my name if I didn't see how much it bothered him. Well now that we have been married for 7 months, I totally am used to my new name. It's me now.

So long story short- at first it's weird and scary. But then you get used to the "new" name, but it's still the same YOU.