little by little, no one is coming ... i give up!

I agree with what Rachel just said. At one point we had 62 "definates" but when it came time to book half of them had excuses. He were dissappointed that none of his friends were coming and I was dissappointed that none of my close cousins coming. But in the end, we looked at the people that were coming and making the effort to share in our day. We just focused on them. We really wanted a DW so we got over who couldn't make it.

 

You have to decide what's right for you guys. And it's still early I'm sure some of these people may change their mind and decide they need a vacation by May 2009.

they are driving me CRAZY!!! thanks again ladies ... i'm so sorry so many of you are going through the same thing!

kat, you crack me up! but i have to admit i was thinking the same (i hate the attention too, and it will definitely be cheaper!). i am seriously considering just going with the FREE wedding package now, and taking the 4 or 5 people who do come on a sunset dinner cruise or something for a "reception!"

WOW.
that's insane ... you must have felt so hurt. but your photos tell a story of a perfect, happy wedding ... soooo, if you had it all to do over again, would you have gone this route?

rach! i never knew all that back story! or if i did i forgot the deets. that sucks so hard.

 

mummer, take inspiration from rachel, she rocks hard core and knows what she's talking about!

Have I told you lately how much you ROCK Seriously Rachel, you are such an inspiration - you have the most amazing attitude! (Mind flying into Dallas to give me a swift kick in the butt?! heehee). Honestly, I just adore you and all your words of wisdom.

That sounds like a GREAT plan!!!!

I'm with Kat and wishing the others wont book lol

That really sucks. We said right from the beginning we were only doing it if our parents and sisters were coming, everyone else (including best man and maid of honour!) were negotiable, but our immediately family was not. Lucky for us none of them (our family that is) backed out, I would have flipped out! Our best man and maid of honour weren't able to come, and that was a huge disappointment (once it was confirmed we decided if they couldn't come, then nobody else would be invited, parents and sisters only) but it wasn't one of our "requirements" so we were able to accept it even though it was a big disappointment.

 

Hopefully you can move past it and enjoy your DW with the few guests who do come.

To be honest- absolutely. There is not a moment I regret- except now I kinda feel like I'm carrying resentful feelings towards some of my family members. LIke I get invited to something of theirs and I feel like "why should I go when you don't bother to care about me?" I'm trying to move past that because I definitely don't want to keep walking around like an injured victim. I had a wonderful wedding and I'm trying to feel as if they missed out- not the other way around. I guess I just learned my lesson and I try to keep things in perspective.

I didn't talk about it much to be honest. My feelings really were hurt by a few family members but I won't get into too much detail. Basically the same story every other couple has- they made other things a priority over my wedding, like taking different vacations a WEEK before my wedding although my family had notice over a year in advance.

I won't say I was perfect in trying to get over it though. Actually, at one point (maybe with like 2-3 months before the wedding) I realized I only had 18 people coming and had a huge break down. I felt like we were spending soo much money on our wedding with no one even there. Steve was a rock and convinced me to stop being stupid. I just kept saying things like "do you know how stupid it will seem to "rent" out LC and only have a handful of people there?" Thankfully, I quickly realized I was crying over something that we couldn't change and ignored my fears of looking like a loser. I decided to have the wedding we wanted regardless of who was there.

Aww thanks Jaime. That is really sweet but honestly, I can be so negative sometimes. I'm definitely not perfect in this category. I'm just trying to refocus and work on not freaking out about things that are out of my hands- KWIM?

I'm just happy I can use my own experiences to help other brides focus on the meaningful stuff. It all comes and goes so quickly and its much better to have positive memories to cherish rather than letting all the petty stuff overshadow it all. I can't even tell you how many times I have looked back and wondered why I let stuff bother me. We had so much fun and in the end, I felt like I got a big "told you so" from everyone who encouraged me to keep postive- my mom, sister and Steve. They were the real reason I stayed sane.

I totally feel for you in all this! We are running into the SAME EXACT thing! But my FI's parents are some of the ones that are complaining! Nothing is more irritating than people all for this DW then coming up with every excuse in the book! I even booked our week when the kids are on Mid winter break and they are STILL making excuses like I do not know if the kids can handle a week on a ship! WHATEVER!!!!!

 

We have decided to just do what we want if people want to come than we will be so happy they are there if they do not than that is fine too but STOP MAKING EXCUSES! Just say we can not make it! I think it is the excuses that kill me!

 

Hang in there and keep counting to 10!