Did this happen to anyone else?

Since everyone has posted their 2 cents, I think I'm going to also! I have also been in the same boat. My sister completely and totally flipped out telling me I'm selfish, mean, rude and inconsiderate when I told her we are for sure having a DW. This went on not only on the phone, but also in VERY LONG emails. My mom said, "Honey, I don't think she meant all that, but we're all very concerned. It's a lot of money to ask your friends to spend on you." It's funny b/c all my friends are super excited!

My parents don't really make any comments and never really have, but I know they're not happy with my choice. My sister, on the other hand, brings it up wherever she can in conversation. When I point out the fact that I realize she's annoyed I'm having a DW, she continues to say, "I'm over it! I think it'll be fun!" Right...

Reading this thread has really helped me too! I continue to feel guilty, but it's lessening. I've booked my resort and am SO excited with everything I've planned so far. That's helped me get over their rude comments! :-)

I don't think my FMIL is still with it. Just last weekend she made a big deal that we are breaking away from the family, this is coming from a person who eloped back in her day

I always have to shake my head at the people who bring up the "you're asking people to spend a lot of money" comment. So many of us have friends and family scattered all over the place, that whether we were to have an at home wedding or a wedding away, people would be spending money on airfare, a hotel stay, wedding gift, wedding outfit, etc.etc. It ends up costing not too far from the same amount.

It's sad that no matter what you say to people, they still try to make it all about them. Your wedding, your day, your way.

Just remember that when it's all done with, everyone will be raving about YOUR wedding in paradise. My cousin got in trouble with his wife when he declared that my wedding was "the best wedding I've ever been to".