Is this "appropriate"?

You may want to register anyway for some stuff you really want, otherwise people are not going to be sure of what to give you.

On our website we have a "honeymoon fund" That's it. Some may think it's rude but it's what we really want.

Andrea,

 

I'm in loveland, and I had the same idea on my mind..........next summer seems too late, this summer seems too early, what to do.........??

 

So, I think we're leaving it in his parent's hands (that feels great to say, b/c most of it will be for his parents and family).

 

I'd love to do a happy hour kind of thing at a local bar in March, but we shall see..........

I say just wait and do it next summer. Have an engagement party this summer. We are in the same position as you. We live in Colorado and our wedding is in December. We wanted to have an AHR afterwards, but also desire to do something outside. So, we are having a big engagement party next week when we go home to see my parents. That way we will still be able to have some of our friends that won't be with us in Mexico.

OMG I have had this issue too! People see this so differently. I did not want gifts AT ALL...and people just couldnt understand that . I set up a charity registry and I had people complain about it. I even had one person come to me and ask if someone gave me money would I send it to charity.... go figure. I told people, that we have everything and so we didnt need to register for towels or china (heck we live in JAPAN... I can go straight to the mikasa factory)Anyhow, I ended up doing a registry at an airline that I frequent. Only one person gave but I got a shit load of crap that I dont need. I honestly cant wait to regift. ... now thats being honest.

Just a thought: Have your party now and if your parents or friends want that didnt make it want to throw you an informal AHR, then go for it, otherwise... start saving your money for your new life as husband and wife.... I say, if they want an AHR, they should throw it for you to celebrate in your happiness... its kinda like throwing your own bday party... I just dont get that... kinda makes you wonder...

I like the idea of a send off party, that would be great. I wouldn't want a ahr in january either if i lived in colorado

I am so gonna have this problem 2 but mostly from FMIL. FI asked what I wanted as a wedding pressie off her as she was bound to ask. I said nothing lol he said well she want to give us something I said well what do you need I need nor want nothing from her or it will be shoved right in my face for eternity lmao he changed the subject lol

Well,

 

As another Colorado bride my suggestion is to have an engagement party this summer - and call it an engagement party - just to keep it wedding related otherwise it sounds like a BBQ. This is a special time in your life and you deserve to have everything related to it to be special!

 

We're getting married in November and I TOTALLY understand your icy road concerns. We're having an AHR brunch the Saturday after Thanksgiving.

 

It's usually still somewhat warm and we're doing it in the morning/afternoon to avoid icy roads just in case.

 

Good luck!

Why can't you have the AHR in March or April?