I Am Totally Floooored....

so i showed a friend of mine here in seattle the ring my friend gave his now fiance and this was our converstaion...... shes one of those heavy make up big breastesssus but she is very thick kind of girls who is like UBER tan.. i had no idea she was this superficial.... ive known her for years but after hearing this i just feel like i dont even know her at all and i really dont have a desire to talk to her again. doesnt ANYONE care about true love anymore (granted men seem to propose for all the wrong reasons these days as well... im just sick right now at people and wish people could value what someone is and not what they can give them be it a nice ring or a nice rack...)

 

ME look at the size of that frickin thing

 

HER that will be my next one

except not that cut

 

ME why is it women only care about their damn ring?

hmmm

 

HER because

we can

and do

just ugly girls dont

 

ME WOW

are you serious

did you just say that?

 

HER lol

yes

its true

 

ME wow.. thats the kind of comment that wowwwww

i dont know what to say

you're more superficial then i imagined

 

HER its true

lol

I know what I like

a ring that will be on my finger for a very very very long time.. is going to be what want.. its on my hand

 

ME like your last ring? (see she was engaged and broke up with the guy and kept the ring and was gonna sell it. to which i say if you werent happy with the ring why say yes.. AND why marry a guy just cause of the ring. its sickening)

 

HER It was decent for the age

i didnt like that ring though

so no.. its not on my finger

 

ME see its comments like that you just made that make me think abou tgetting my girlfriend at the time a cheap piece of crap just to see what she says

holy F***

are you F****** with me right now?

 

HER nope

serious

 

ME wow you are soooo superficial

well i hope you find your RING

and happiness

glad to see you know what is important in life

 

HER i dont care

i know what I like

and I know what to go after

I wont settle in life

 

ME ill talk to you later

 

HER why should I?

lol oh my god

get the sand out of your vagina

One of my good friends is getting married in August. She JUST got engaged last month. Anyway, I was talking with her right before it happened, we both knew it was about to happen just didn't know when. She was like it better be a great ring and at least a carat. I was like for real? What does it matter? She said basically what your friend said " I have to wear it for a long time" I couldn't believe. it. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my ring. Not because it is big and shiny and beautiful but because Ryan gave it to me. And even if it was a band with no diamonds at all I still would have thought I was the luckiest girl alive.

You are right though Jean-Marcus. I think the whole engagement ring situation is totally out of hand. You don't measure your decision on the size of the rock. And PS you are such a great guy. You are going to find an amazing girl and make her a great husband.

ahh thanks... that made my night.. you totally got me out of my funk.. i was kind of upset really because i cant believe how some people think and waht people really value... no wonder everyone gets divorced these days and why the average length of a marriage is 7 years (just looked it up)....

glad im not the only one who still values true love

Some people marry out of convienience. It's whatever though. Just remember she is so shallow and she will never be truely happy unless she realizes what love is about.

how can someone live with themselves and be that shallow.... does she realize that she is essentially whoring herself out... (OHHH I KNOW IM GONNA GET HEAAAT FOR THAT COMMENT ON HERE) hahah.. but seriously.. you cant defend what she is doing and say its anything else BUT that.

its girls like her that makes me wanna get a cheap crappy ring and give it as the engagement ring just to test her out (whoever she may be when i do decide to propose) just to see if she really wants to be with me for me or just for a high priced ring...

I don't understand some people. I will admit that I had a ring picked out that I wanted and had it on the fridge for about a year. BUT, I didn't end up getting it, and I still love my ring. I told FI that I didn't want anything really big, because I wouldn't be able to wear it at work (I'm a nurse) so what would be the point. Turns out the ring that the setting of the ring that I wanted did sit pretty high, so FI picked out a ring himself. I love it and wouldn't change it for anything. Also, I even went for several months without the ring, because I was on mat leave and the oilfield was slow around here, so I told FI to wait until we had some extra cash first. After all, it is only a ring and doesn't make the relationship.

 

Jean-Marcus - the fact that this bothers you so much shows that you really do value true love as well. As for a cheaper ring, my FI did give me a cheaper ring with my birthstone as a temp ring since we didn't have much $ at the time for a diamond ring. I wasn't even expecting to get that. If it is true love, you will agree to marry someone with a ring or not!!!!

I think its a definite sign of immaturity if that's all a person cares about. When I was younger I had this idea that a certain kind of ring was what I wanted, then I met my husband and my priorities changed, the thought of him spending a certain amount of money on a ring was too much for me, so we bought my ring together (we picked it out together and I put in some of the money for it) and I am incredibly happy with my ring, but mainly incredibly happy with my husband and marriage. For me my ring is not always on my finger, in my first year of marriage I was only able to wear it for a few months then my hands got too swollen from pregnancy.

Its really too bad that some women are so concerned with the rock that they don't think about what the marriage means.

When my FI and I got engaged, I told him I didn't need an engagement ring. I personally think it's the wedding band part that is most important, the sign of your love and commitment to each other.

 

My FI did at a later point in time did suprise me by buying me a gorgeous engagement ring mount which together we chose the center stone for (not a diamond but a pretty sapphire). We chose the stone together and it was perfect for me. I love my ring, but even if he didn't get me one it wouldn't change the fact I love him. You can't put a price tag on love.

When I decided I wanted to get married and other half agreed, we didn't have any intention of getting me an engagment ring, its only when he went down on one knee, in front of our three children and aksed me to marry him that we decided I would have a ring. He then chose two rings and asked me which one I preferred, and that's the one i have on my finger. It wasn't overly expensive but I like it.

Unfortunately, I don't think your friend is alone. I'm sure we all know someone just like her! I told my DH not to buy me a diamond b/c I felt like it was a crazy amount of money to spend on something material when we had bigger things we were trying to do together, like buy a house, pay off college debt... so I asked him to get moissanite instead. I didn't care about the size, the only requests that I made was that it be a white gold band. And I love it b/c I know what it symbolizes.

 

Given that 50% of marriages end in the first 2 years, I'd bet my first born child that most of those people get divorced and are still paying off the ring and wedding! And it's b/c they were putting on a show for everyone else.