Guest cancellations!

I had two couples going with us for the wedding. These were my closest friends and their husbands. I did not expect them to be able to go when we first decided to have a DW. I was so excited to find out they were able to go. Well, something happened over the Winter and one couple had to cancel. I was bummed, but knew I still had the other couple going. (also my daughter, mom and aunt are going). Well, my "other couple" called Friday and said they couldnt come. They could use the $ to pay down their debt (blaming me b/c I have been talking to them about fincances -ugh, me and my big mouth). This completely sucks. To have your 2 best friends say they can come see you get married, then both of them having to cancel. The friend who just called Friday was gonna do my hair, make up, and pics. Now, I have to re-evaluate everything. I called the travel agent to see if he could offer her a "discount" if she was able to still come. I dont know if would be enough of a "discount", but if so, Paul and I will pay it to have her there (she would never accept the $ from us). I figured I could offer what I would have to pay to have the things done that she was going to do.

My relationship with my friends is so very different than the one I have with my mom. I love my mom and am glad she is able to be there, but she is so unable to do these things for me.

When Paul and I decided to have a DW, we went into it thinking no one was going to be able to come. Then both of my friends booked and I was overjoyed. Now, both of them had to cancel. It sucks! It would not have been as painful if I hadnt gotten my hopes up.

Sorry for such a long post, but I know you ladies would let me vent without thinking I was a horrible, selfish person...I simply want my friends to stay in debt so they can see me get married! (just kidding...I completely understand, but it still sucks!)

What about paying her to do your hair makeup & pics? So she can put that money towards the trip. Is she a photographer?

I think it's a good idea to try to pay her for her services- especially since it's in your best interest that she be there. Not only as a friend, but for the services she can provide. I can understand the pride thing but I hope she can put that aside and let you pay her. After all, it's a good deal for you both.