Bridesmaid help!!

Hi I'm new here and I am getting married on june 21, 2008. I have a little dilemma with 2 of my bridesmaids. About 6 months ago we ordered their dresses. They had to put 1/2 the deposit down ($80) and then they would have to pay the second half when the dresses came in. Well in March, one bridesmaid told me that she couldn't go because she found out she was pregnant. Then two weeks after that a second one told me that she had personal issues and couldn't go. Well, they both said that they would still pay for the dresses even though they weren't going. I sent out an email last week letting everyone know the dresses are here. Well, I haven't heard anything from those two. How should I approach them? I just can't afford to pay for their dresses on top of everything else. Any advice woiuld be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Shanna

Wow! How awful for you! Do you have replacement bridesmaids that might be able to fit into one of them? Would you fit in one? If not, I would follow up with a phone call. "Your beautiful 'occassion' dresses are here now! We're sad you can't wear them in our wedding, but I can't wait to see you in them! When should we get together to swap out the dresses so I can pay the store? I hope we can do it over coffee or dinner!"

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, what a bad situation. I agree that you should follow up with a phone call and just let them know what you told us - that the dresses are here, you can't afford them and you need them to pay what they previously agreed to. Let us know what happens!

Thanks Mandy, that sounds like a good idea. I just don't want to come across the wrong way and have our friendships ruined over a wedding.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this! Hopefully the phone calls go okay tomorrow and they step up to fulfill their commitment! Let us know how it goes.

We're date twins! Moran is also getting married the 21st, so we're triplets!

Anyway, I've had lots of bridesmaid problems here recently and the best approach is to be honest. Are you having an AHR? If so, you could ask the girls to wear the dresses there. They could also always try to sell them on e-bay. They made the commitment so now they need to honor it. (That is my new mantra)

Call them up personally and tell them about the dresses.

They said they would pay so they probably will.

If those sizes fit other guests attending, maybe they can wear them as your maids.

If not, don't stress too much. Everything does happen for a reason.

One of my bridesmaids told me she cannot make it a month ago.

hope this works out for you!!! Not hearing anything is sometimes worse than having somone refuse to pay you back. I hate being avoided!!!!