I want to FIRE my bridal party...

danielle, if it makes you feel even an ounce better.... my FSIL made a HUGE deal about making a trip to the US to try on a bridesmaid dress even though it is totally unnecessary! she just wants to milk my FMIL for a shopping spree while they are there. typical. so anyway, i come to find out from my MTOH today that the dresses are shortly not going to be offered at ann taylor anymore, so the trip my FSIL scheduled for the end of may is now totally stupid to make, because she wont even be able to get her dress then because they wont carry it in the store anymore. my MTOH even called the specific store my FSIL was going to go to to confirm everything. now, my FSIL is making a BFD about giving me her measurements so i can (somehow, with my busy work schedule working 14 hours a day) track down a fucking dress for her! i am SOOO pissed off right now that i want to just explode. then she tells me this afternoon that she's looking into prices for me to fedex her a dress. and guess the cost to fedex from here to mx city? $150!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! some friends of ours from mx city are coming at the end of may so i offered FSIL the option of sending it back with our friends and they can drop it off to her. i certainly am not paying $150 to ship her a dress, and i dont want her swindling my FMIL to pay for that either. so ridiculous. well, FSIL does not want me to send a dress back with the friends, even though that is free shipping!!!!!!! she is being all wishywashy about looking at the measurements chart to pick a freaking size so i can track down a dress for her, and from her response to me asking her to do it, she basically wanted me to change the dress color just for her when everybody else already has their dress, even my deadbeat sister who looked up her measurements over a month ago so i could go purchase the dress for her.

i am going to drink a cocktail in your honor tonight, danielle!

Im sorry your being put through this stress. People in the bridal party do not realize all of the stress in the details and planning for the bride & groom, you assume they will help or at the very least respond to a damn email!....but like mentioned before you realize things about them you never noticed. Hopefully they will get it together, im sure their not doing it intentionally toward you or your FI, I just dont think people take the time to realize the importance of things...AHHH

Girl, I feel your pain. I had some really, really shitty BM experiences leading up to my wedding ... and now that the wedding is over am thankful for the eye-opening experience about what I/we expect out of friends and what some people are willing/able to deliver.

I was just like you months ago, heartbroken, hurt, angry, almost in tears --- but truly like these others BDW ladies had to tell me ... NO ONE cares about our wedding as much as we do. I tried to let that be my foundation, and it helped ... but the hurt feelings still remain for things that no one helped with, etc etc etc.

Just remember that in the end, its you and your man and as long as you are in it together -- it everything will be perfect.

And I just got back from my our honeymoon less than 24 hours ago so trust me! :-)

I completely understand what you are going through. Three of my sisters which were bridesmaids have informed me that they won't becoming. My little sister said she has to worry about her prom (I told her I would help her pay for her trip but for her to show me that she would start it off) and my other sister said she thought we were paying for her to go (yeah right! I have 7 brothers and sisters if you pay for one you have to pay all). My moh called a few weeks ago and said she is sick and having surgery which happened today. I feel as if she will be all healed by the end of July. I think she is just using this as a partial excuse. I have replaced 2 of them but it still hurts me in the end. But what the hell? Don't let it ruin your day. Have fun and enjoy and that is exactly what I am doing!

Danielle-

I am sorry to hear that you are having issues with your bridal party. These aren't difficult things to ask from them, I haven't experienced any party issues as of yet but if I did, the bridezilla side would come out very quickly

ugghhhh join the crowd