Guilt over bridesmaids

I had a similar situation (only in the part where some important people to me can't go to the acutal wedding), we solved it by having a bridal party, and then I have 4 honorary bridesmaids. These 4 girls I have known for between 15-20 years, and it didn't seem right to disinclude them just cuz they couldn't make Jamaica work. They are participating in the shower and everything and they will wear a different BM dress from my regular BM's at the AHR and will partake in the formal pictures and everything.

You could do something similar to that. Since they are throwing tyou a shower, ask them to be your honorary bm, just as you would to be your bm. I think that is a sweet gesture that would ring true to your friendship.

LMAO at that thread's pic

The passport covers are adorable. I really like the blue alot. I have not put any thought into how much I would spend yet so it is an option. I had considers just hosting a "girls day out". You know hair, make-up, nails. Maybe even facials or massages. Just a bonding moment with my closest friends. I did talk to one of the girls last night and I told her that I really wished she could have been part of my wedding party and if I were to have a local wedding she would have been the first I asked. I also apologized for being consumed with the wedding. She said she understood and said that maybe she was just alittle jealous because she did not get to have wedding the first time. Her long time boyfriend proposed over the phone because he was in the military and she flew to Florida one weekend with her mom and got married. There were no frills. She has since devoriced but it won't be much longer and she will be planning a wedding with the right guy! I am glad we go to the bottom of everything though with her! I feel relieved.

I am happy to hear that you were able to have a heart to heart with your friend... weddings are tough because its as hard as you try not to let it happen, they take up so much of your time and energy. I bet your friends back home would love to have a full day with you doing girl stuff. Why not do it the same weekend as the shower so that it will be like an entire weekend devoted to you and your friends?

That is great that you were able to talk to your friend. I am sure she appreciated your bringing it up! The passports are just an idea fo me as well. I have ideas of grandeur, not necessarily the budget to finance it though

Hijack!

Nikki - if you really like the passports, there are some much more wallet friendly options out there. I got some for my girls, can't remember where right now, but I think they were about $20/each. If you are intrested, I think there are some threads that talk about "passport covers" and I could try to find the compnay that I used...

http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t11922