registry on shower invites

totally agree with you tami -- just dumb to put your numbers out to so many people. i keep telling myself sometimes that i have to remember its a totally different culture, although asking for cash is a faux pas no matter where youre from i think, and judging by my FI's reaction. we are not in need of a lot either, so we are registering for a minimal number of gifts and hoping that all the gifts get bought up and the rest of what we receive comes in cash. according to my FI, most of our guests from mexico will probably give cash since we arent registering at any mexican stores. any physical gifts we didnt ask for that get sent to his parents house will for the most part be returned for cash because we dont want to pay shipping for our wedding gifts to get to chicago. i have been trying to talk jose into a honeymoon registry so he can stop worrying about paying for it, but i havent done enough research yet.


and nylalany --- i know a couple of brides who were involved in plannning their showers so the bride's name and phone number were also on the invite as an alternate RSVP if people didnt know the hostess and werent really comfortable calling her. not the most tactful way to do your shower invites, but personally knowing these people for their situations it was ok (mostly people with divorced parents, things like stepmom didnt want to call real mom's sister who was hosting because they didnt get along or whatever).

actually, i think in Mexico they just give $$ for showers ... crazy, eh? i think that's what Anny said anyway.

I have thrown 2 showers recently. What we did was go to the store and get there registry cards from the store to include in the invites. I don't think that is tackey. After all, you only get a shower once and you want specific things for your place ya know.

Doug and I have been struggling with the idea of registering or not as well. We don't want to, we have so much already in our little house, what with having already combining two houses, and with us, the kids, dogs & cats we don't need a bunch of waterford crystal candlesticks and cuisinart blenders taking up our storage. Most places won't give cash back without a receipt (just store credit or gift cards) and we don't want to have to deal with returning it all anyways if we get things we don't want.

 

Someone did bring up the idea of just registering for things we already have that could use replacing or updating, then donating the old stuff. We thought this might be something we'll end up doing, but not sure. We figure we could register for towels and a new bathroom set like shower curtain, rugs etc, and then all new bedding for us and the kids, (since our marriage is also us becoming a 4 person family, we think we can squeak by with registering kids bedding as well.) If someone doesn't like that, they can just not pick the kids stuff or something! We didn't want anything anyways, so we might only register due to all the people who are asking.

Ahhh, but back to the subject, we aren't going to do inserts in anything due to the fact that we'd just as well rather not get anything in the first place. If we did want stuff, I think an insert would be fine in a shower invite only.

ann, that's correct -- for showers they give cash, but the invitation i was talking about was the actual wedding invitation that had the inserts asking for cash.

I got all cash (both USD and pesos) at my Mexican bridal shower.

oh yea, i realize that - and that's INSANE! lol I mean, who does that!?

in the words of my FI, people who do that are "pinches nacos" hahaha

I have a question: My daughter is getting married and moving to Guadalajara. Obviously they don't want gifts to have to ship down there. Do you have any great suggestions? Places to register in Mexico? Would it even be appropriate to have a shower where people give them money towards their household furnishings? ($$ towards a sofa, $$ towards a lamp?)

you have come to the right place to ask

how soon after the wedding is she moving there? or is she moving beforehand?

all of the weddings i've been to in mexico, and my sister in law who lives there has been to, everyone registered at Liverpool which is kind of like Macys.
Here is the website. There is definitely a Liverpool in Guadalajara. Liverpool - Es parte de mi vida

I know they allow you to purchase online and have it shipped, so perhaps if they have their place in Mexico before the wedding, they can register there in person --or you can register online too I believe--

Here is the direct link for the wedding registry part: Liverpool - Es parte de mi vida

In Mexico, it's customary for shower guests to give cash gifts. They can always also register for Liverpool giftcards and whoever hosts her shower can explain the situation to people. I know sometimes in the US people think it's tacky to give cash, but when you're moving abroad, the last thing you want to do is pay money to ship gifts. Let me ask my sister in law for some more places to register that are Mexico-wide and Guadalajara specific and get back to you. PM me with your email and I will get in touch with you! For now though, Liverpool is fantastic, and if we lived in Mexico City where my FI's family is from, that's where I'd be registering!