Invited to a Bridal Shower, but not the wedding??

I'm not sure...I didn't invite co-workers (only 2 of them) to the wedding, but then again I knew they wouldn't be able to go both because of money and time off (since I won't be there). However if I have a shower I was planning on inviting them, only because I never really put much thought into it. They are my friends at work and i see them more than most of my other friends...they hear all about my wedding planning etc...and I guess I would feel weird talking about my shower to them and not inviting them. If they couldn't come then I wouldn't care. I guess I never thought about it the other way. I wouldn't be inviting them for gifts...

So maybe it was really innocent and they just didn't want it to be awkward not inviting you?

I don't know...maybe I shouldn't invite co-workers to the shower now. Yikes!

Sorry, I know I didn't help!

I'd skip it if I were you. It's such short notice so you have a perfect excuse. I'm like Carly though. I don't like going anywhere where I don't know people. I get super uncomfortable. I think showers are uncomfortable anyways- even when they are my good friends.

I definitely agree the trend needs to change with them. They should be more festive and less gift giving.

I too say send your regrets and chip in for a wedding gift from your office if that's planned. And I do not believe you are obligated to give a shower gift either.

I think they are being quite tacky. That was very nice of you to explain the etiquette to him.

I wouldn't go, since it was so short notice and you have a night of heavy drinking the day before.

Chip in for a present with everyone else and be done with it.