Stressed

boscobel · September 27, 2007

It will all work out in the end, it is the struggle of actually getting to the end that is hard! You do have plenty of time to consider your options. I am getting married in Jamaica, cuz everyone I know is on the East Coast (in the USA anyway), so I don't have any suggestions or ideas for you, but I am sure if you decide the Mexico is too much $$$, there are other brides on here that can offer alternate suggestions for a destination.

Christine · September 27, 2007

I am going to go against the grain here and tell you that if your family (and I mean all of your family) being there means that much to you, then I don't think its the end of the world to change your location (that is if you haven't already invested too much into your current location).

I was not in a position to pay for people to go, however some of my nearest and dearest friends would not have been able to make it to my wedding (originally planned in Jamaica) and so about 6 months before we got married, we changed our location to something closer for family and friends.

CourtneyV · September 27, 2007

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Originally Posted by Christine

I am going to go against the grain here and tell you that if your family (and I mean all of your family) being there means that much to you, then I don't think its the end of the world to change your location (that is if you haven't already invested too much into your current location).
I was not in a position to pay for people to go, however some of my nearest and dearest friends would not have been able to make it to my wedding (originally planned in Jamaica) and so about 6 months before we got married, we changed our location to something closer for family and friends.

I have to agree with Christine here. You have over a year until your wedding, which is lots of time. Think over your location - which is more important to you, having your wedding at your location or having your family there? I don't mean to ask that in a condescending way if that's how it comes across, but if family is so important to you and it could possibly make or break your wedding day, then maybe a location change is in your best interest.

trisha0612 · September 27, 2007

I have family from Philly, Phoenix, Maryland..and his family from Maine, Phoenix,..so unless it's in my hometown (which I really do not want) they will have to travel and take off work for the time anyways. I just feel like my some of my siblings are being difficult b/c it's something they don't want to save then spend the money on. Like, if they were saving money..it would be something more for their liking...like..DisneyWorld because they have kids. They are not looking at it like saving for a vacation..they are looking at it as having to spend money b/c I won't get married at home....

Does that make sense??

CourtneyV · September 27, 2007

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Originally Posted by trisha0612

I have family from Philly, Phoenix, Maryland..and his family from Maine, Phoenix,..so unless it's in my hometown (which I really do not want) they will have to travel and take off work for the time anyways. I just feel like my some of my siblings are being difficult b/c it's something they don't want to save then spend the money on. Like, if they were saving money..it would be something more for their liking...like..DisneyWorld because they have kids. They are not looking at it like saving for a vacation..they are looking at it as having to spend money b/c I won't get married at home....

Does that make sense??

Ya it makes sense for sure. Just as long as you understand that your location may mean that family members won't go, especially those with children. Don't take offense, just understand that choosing a location other than your hometown or which ever location may be more convenient for others may mean that your family cannot attend. It is your wedding and your choice. If you're set on your location that's great! You deserve your dream wedding.