Should I send invitations to.....

Yep. Family comes first. Even if they don't show, send them an invite.

We are actually only going to send out invitations, we are going to do this quite soon so that if anyone does want to join us they have enough time to plan and save.

Valerie

It is probably one of those things that should be determined on a case by case basis. For example, if it is your 80 year old grandmother that can't come, but still wants to somehow be included and would maybe keep it as a keepsake, I would still send her one. If it is a friend that has already made it clear that she can't come, then maybe don't bother. Just a thought.

I sent an invite to everyone who was invited to the wedding regardless of whether they were coming or not. I didn't want anyone to feel left out and what if for some reason they changed their mind. I also had a meet and greet bar-b-q that everyone who was invited to the wedding was included in. I gave out my oot bags at this event, and so no one would feel left out I gave every person coming to the wedding a oot bag, and for those not attending I gave one oot bag per family/couple. I know those who didn't come were grateful that they were not forgotten. Oh yeah I also mentioned in my oot bag letter that my friends and family who couldn't come with us would be missed.