May 2010 Brides!

You guys are all so young! I'll be 34 at the end of July and so feeling my clock ticking. J and I stopped "preventing" a baby but who know what will happen...we've been together 5 years, own a home & feel pretty settled but some days we look at our friends with kids and think...so glad that's not us, we have freedom! So, whatever happens, happens is our thought : )

I feel like I've missed so much, it made me smile when I logged in and saw the May 2010 Brides thread on top :-D

Happy belated birthday to you, Amy!!! We share the date!! I turned the big 3-0, and it was WONDERFUL!!! My husband (lol! it still makes me smile to say that) planned a huge surprise party for me. The premise was we were going to my aunt and uncle's house to "help them fix their pool", which was totally legit bc the last time we were there, we were talking about how to fix it and do it before the end of the summer. The whole morning Will was asking me "do you want to spend the night" --Not really, I'd like to sleep in my own bed..."do you want to bring the video camera?"--NO! What are we going to tape? My ass sweating off from all the manual labor in 100 degree heat? No thanks...

We show up at their house and Will goes out to help my uncle start "fixing the pool" while my aunt asks for my help in the basement with going through my cousin's college dorm stuff to pack and send off again. This was a massive undertaking! Everything was so disorganized. She goes to get me a Diet Coke and about 20 minutes later I realized she hadn't returned. I went upstairs to see what was up...no one was in the house. So I went to go outside to see what was going on and I smell the BBQ going. I turn the corner of the house and about 50 family members are there singing Happy Birthday to me. I was shocked...stunned...embarrassed...you name it! Thank God it was 100 degrees out because I was sweating I was so embarrassed. My sunglasses hid my tears really well, too! Hahaha...

SOOOO while I was in the basement, they were all orchestrating this production, complete with a massive white tent, food all over the place, balloons, streamers, music, etc. That was awesome!!!! Came pretty close to my surprise wedding!! Guess my family is big on the surprises for me. Like you Amy, the 4th of July usually takes precedence over any bday plans, but this year was awesome!!!!!!! Will tricked me...and then I got a little mad that all I had was the bathing suit I was wearing and nothing else. No bed, no change of clothes, no toothbrush, NO CAMERA! About 40 people ended up staying the night, and we resumed BBQ-ing the next day, too! Good times...

We currently have Will's 8-year-old daughter with us for the summer. She lives in a small town in Indiana and doesn't get to experience what I like to call "life". I had been telling Will for over a year that we need to take her home with us to see that there's more to life than what she's seen. We've totally blown her mind while she was here and I think she'll never be the same. The one thing having her here has taught me is that kids are cute, but A LOT of work. Even at a functional age of 8, she's still a lot to take care of. I keep telling myself it's because I never got to ease into the role of "mom", but I'm not really keen on it right now. I've had the cravings for a baby, but with her being here, they've definitely taken a back seat. My family adores her and they're actually scheduling time with her for crabbing, boating, amusement parks, lakes...and I enjoy the free couple of hours that I get when they do. I didn't think I'd be that way, but boy is it tough.

I've always been in the mind set that I want at least 3 kids, so there was never a "side". I am the middle child of 3 girls, all close in age, and I love it! I always said I either wanted no kids, or lots of kids...I think once she leaves though, my family is going to be on me to have them. They already ask if I'm cooking anything yet (weird, I know), but it makes me feel like I have the total support that I need...now I just have to actually start the process. I'm super scared now though. I never was until we took Sasha. It's definitely a conversation that will take place multiple times and then we'll just let the chips fall. I'm on the pill (which I HATE) so I feel like getting off of it will make me feel so much more like me, and actually be happier. So we'll see...

My parents were young when they had me, and I remember as a little girl saying "I don't want to be an OLD mom...I want to have ALL the kids I'm gong to have by 30!". Hahaha...hmmm...things certainly change But I'm glad I have an 8 year old, so that means I am a "young" mom in a way too!

I'm glad all you out in California are okay after that quake!!! I felt the one that happened in Canada a couple weeks ago! My first!! Is it bad that I actually thought it felt cool? It was like I was on the subway and my chair was rocking. We were obviously far from the center, but I can see how that gets super scary!!! Especially if things were falling off of the walls and alarms were going off!!

I need to do a lot of catching up on these threads....

I don't want any babies anytime soon. Maybe when I'm 30-31. I'm 27 right now.

Karen - that is so exciting! I hope it happens for you at the perfect time

Magalie - Wow... 2 year honeymoon around the world!? How unbelievably amazing! How are you able to do that, will you be working at all? Have a blast doing your BD shoot and Happy Birthday!

Chrissy - I feel you. At least you'll just let it happen if it's meant to be! I look at my friends with kids as well and I'm so grateful that I have my freedom. It's funny none of them are convincing either, all they do is complain! haha!

Cristini - OMG! WOW, Happy Birthday!! You are only the second person I know now who shares my same birthday, the first person I found out about a few weeks ago and I was his first he had ever met. Your family sounds amazing, I can never really count on more than my closest friends to be there on my birthday, I don't even plan anything anymore on that day because everyone is busy or out of town. I don't live near any family either.

Di - Yeah, I'm in the same boat, I need time before I even discuss it seriously!

Magalie! How can you have two years of honeymoon?? I am so jealous!! Congrats!

Wow Magalie! What an adventure

You'll have to keep us posted on where you two lovebirds are from time to time.

I am turning 28 next week... haven't reallly thought about how I feel about it or anything, but I think every year gets more interesting and that I am more secure in myself, so really, better and better.

I swing back and forth on the kids thing, sometimes I really want one and then a few weeks later I'd be like -- am I nuts? Maybe I am still a bit too self-centred to have a kid right now. We shall see!

We met while traveling and we both knew that we wanted to get back on the road some day... I started saving $ for this years ago, before even talks of a wedding. Now we just call it a honeymoon because of the timing! There's no plan to work during our trip, but who knows, maybe we'll fall in love with some place and want to stay longer!

Magalie - So romantic and fun, I love it! Great plan, newlyweds and the world is your oyster, have an amazing time!

My photographer put together a Vegas picture/video collage for me so I thought I'd share with ladies

http://csp.smugmug.com/Wedding/Amy-D...27783949_VTJz7