Am I a terrible sister?

I haven't read through the other posts, but I guess I look at it this way---- even if your sister gets engaged first, it doesn't mean you have to wait to get married. You can pay for your own wedding if you don't want to wait. I'm assuming that since you're 30 and sis is 25, that you might be a better position to financially contribute to your own wedding than she is (since 30 is more career established and 25 is almost fresh from college).

I guess I'm going against the grain a little bit here, in that I think it's very sneaky to try and beat your sister to the punch, per say. And in turn, put her in the spot you don't want to be in.

Also, maybe your sister will want a long engagment. I know we did. And if she's planning a huge blow out, she'll probably need more time to make it all come together anyway

I just read all the way through your post now... Wow, I feel bad for your parents if they're financing a significant portion of each wedding and there looks to be 3 in a short 3-5 year timeframe! I think I'd probably elope to save them money and become the "favorite" child who was the least expensive of the 3! hehehe...

I don't think you are a bad sister. I just think that's a stressful situation to be in. The decision of when to get married should be between you & your sig other. You shouldn't have to also coordinate it with your sister. I understand why your parents would want that, but it's not very realistic. I think my brother & I might end up getting maried around the same time. My mom is excited. She said she is happy to only have to lose weight once.