Guests who want to stay at a different hotel

I had some people who wanted to stay at a cheaper resort. I told them they were more than welcome to, as it is their vacation, but if they wanted to come on to our resort and hang out with everyone they would have to pay a day pass each time they came. (it wasn't in out budget to pay for day passes for people). It turned out that they didn't realize that you aren't just allowed to go spend some time at an AI resort that you are no staying at. They thought it was more like hotels in North America where you can just walk in anytime.

I could see how frustrating this would be for a bride. Our resort is "all inclusive optional" so those who stay elsewhere don't have to worry about paying for a day pass. They will have to find a way to the resort but the island is so small they shouldn't have too much trouble.

I had a recent incident where one of my best friends (also a bridesmaid) told me because of my choice in hotels (which BTW is mid-range for JA) is 'costing' her boyfriend his vacation because they stayed at another hotel a few years ago for half the price when they purchased a last minute deal.

She also has been mentioning to the other BMs that maybe they should all book last minute at another cheaper hotel and then just come for the day of the wedding!!

I was upset about this as I thought the point of having best friends as bridesmaids was so they could hang out with you and help you through the week. I hope she was just brainstorming ideas and not actually planning this!

Hi Girls,

I too was worrying about this in the beginning, but I noticed that on the Palace website (i am assuming some of you are referring to the palace resorts by mentioned all the freebies) it says that day passes are only guaranteed the "day of the wedding" therefore guests cant just come an hang out when ever they want. So once I started telling the people that were considering other resorts they decided that it was better to just stay at the palace.

I am not sure hoe strict they are with the policy but it must be in writing for a reason, no? Also, on my website under accommodations I said this...Guests considering a resort other than the Playacar Palace, must purchase a wedding pass upon their arrival to the resort. Wedding passes are $88.00 USD per person. Wedding passes are guaranteed for purchase only on the ceremony date. (October 10, 2010)

All in all...we cant tell people where to stay and it was something that I had no control over, so I stopped thinking about. The people that stay else where will be peaking over the fence, thinking DAMN...we should have just stayed there, they are having so much fun!

The reason I do not mind paying the money for the couple that is staying at another resort is because I DO NOT LIKE HIM! He is the best man. My FI knows I do not like him and would have no problem to pay the money for them to come for the day. Plus they have a bad @zz daughter(4) that they act like they can not control. So the less time I have to spend around them while there the better.

I have a situation were we invited my dad's good friend to the wedding which I have known this person since I was a little girl. Our wedding is a month and a half away and just now told us that he is coming as well as these other couples which we dont know. They are staying off the resort and it really isnt clear about what they are doing whether they are going to hang out with us or go to the wedding... I asked my dad and he didnt know any of the details. The Palace resorts require that you tell them beforehand if you need any day passes but not sure if they will come or not. Should I just count them out until I get a definite YES that they are coming to the wedding? What would you guys do? Also I dont even know the last name of the couple that are coming with my dad's good friend... I ask my dad and he didnt even know!!!!