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Good to know thanks for the info!

OK ladies you are my barometer and source of strength. I am having a crappy day. Seriously does anyone have FMIL who is just nasty? How do you deal with it? My FI parents have made it clear to me that I am not good enough for their son due to my weight. My FMIL refers to the shop where I buy my clothing as "that fat lady store" and constantly asks my FI if he is sure that our marriage is what he wants. She keeps telling him that she is worried about my "health". (I am fine, just overweight.)

 

How do I not let this bother me? How do I deal with my FI? I have asked me not to tell me what his parents say and he doesn't for the most part but that is not going to fix the problem long term, right?

wow Daily2011, that is just waaaaay mean. I don't even know what to say. His parents have no right to say that. No one does. Love comes in all shapes and sizes. We're not all skinny super models. I just can't believe they could be so cruel. Are you sure they aren't just concerned for your health? Just trying to find some niceness in them... if they really are just that judgemental you will have to find a way to live with this in your life. It's sad that people are like that.

Your FI will have to defend you and tell them to stop. You can't make someone like you, but for purely superficial reasons to not is absolutely disgusting.

I have tried to view her comments that way (as positive and concerned). I have told myself that it is just the way she is expressing love for her son. It was the "fat lady store" comment today that kinda sealed the deal on not being able to look at it that way. It certainly has not helped the self esteem any and I don't know how to deal with her (and his dad to a lesser extent) now. If you really think that little of me...

I'm so sorry you're going though this. Your really going to need you Fiance's support to help you get through it and get through to THEM! That's just horrible. SOme people can't accept change and their son marrying and they deal with it in different ways- it seems they are picking at this but their may be a bigger issue. Just stay focused!

OMG what a nasty thing to say! Listen your FI loves you for who you are and how you look and that is why he is marrying you! So just remember that when she is dishing out her spiteful comments. I have had run in's with my FMIL and we are by no means best friends. Over the yr's i have just distanced myself from her. If i'm not around her she can't upset me. But it is hard. Have you told FI how you feel? Maybe he could have a word with his mum and tell her it's not on to be so disrespectful to you! My FI struggles with the relationship between me and his mum. But after she told me OUR wedding day was as much about her as it was me i couldn't bite my tongue any longer. The woman lives on another planet. You have to laugh at them really x

Daily2011 - I am so sorry to hear what a rough time you having with your FMIL. Just know that the apple DOES fall far from the tree and your future husband loves you for you. I think setting your boundaries with her and just saying something along the lines of "I don't appreciate the way you refer to my weight and it does not help me progress" etc. I know some people just have the need to feel superior and she may feel a little threatened.

 

 

Just as an FYI for ladies that are getting married at the Tropical or Colonial, Xhail I believe is one of the coordinators there and I got an email from her after asking if I could bring a photographer with me and she replied "Regarding the photographer, if he/she will be staying with you in the hotel and if he/she will be one of your guest, for sure it is possible and is not any problem the have him/her as your photographer." - Just thought it may put you at ease, it did for me!

 

Hope everyone is doing great!

Just an update, the FI and I had a long talk last night and he is totally supportive and does not share his mother's hurtful comments. He has never had a particularly close relationship with her. We have agreed to limit contact and confront it when it comes up again.

 

On another subject, does anyone have a menu of services for the spa?

Ladies:

 

I got an e-mail from Claudia that talked about an attachment that would go step-by-step through the process of planning and had a tentative schedule. She said that she needed me to fill in the wedding party section. Only, the e-mail was not attached to anything. I e-mailed back to tell her that a couple of days ago, but no response yet. Anyone have what she is talking about?

Glad you have your FI on side! Things will work themselves out )

 

Any girls from the UK? Who did you book with? We are at risk of not being able to book the Barcelo as the only TA that we know of that has this resort told me today they are no longer booking holidays to Mexico.....AARRGGHH!!! A bit worried about booking direct all the way from the UK. Any help would be highly appreciated......