venting bride to be about neg. guest comments

Ladies, how are you dealing with guest who make smart comments about attending your destination wedding? Some people are just bold to say to me:

it's not fair that you are planning a dw, what about those who can not attend

is it AI resort because they can only afford to do a AI resort

everyone has waited so long to see you get married and that is what you do

will you change your mind for me, it's just not fair

why waste your money, just go to the court house

Those are just a few comments. With all those comments ,the main thing is what I want. Know one ever ask that question ,because they feel it's all about them, and they are not paying for anything for the wedding. I keep telling my myself , everyone is going to be unhappy about something know matter where I get marreid. I just needed to vent.

Venting Bride to be Kendra

kendra, i know what you're talking about....i've been getting the:

"what, is your shower going to be in greece?"

"i wish you'd just change the location"

"can't you have an at home reception?"

and my personal favorite: "if it's an AI, doesn't that mean we're paying for our own wedding dinner?"

my FMIL keeps telling me to remember that it's OUR wedding and if they don't want to, they don't have to come. i'm fine w/ people not coming, but ironically enough, those are the people who have already booked.

i said this earlier today in another post - you can't please everyone all the time...since it's YOUR day, please yourself. period.

My favorite response back----

"Oh, I'm so sorry you were under the impression that *my* wedding was all about you. Please, stay home and enjoy that Big Mac and "The Notebook"---- we'll toast you with some really quality champagne in the middle of our Surf-N-Turf dinner, after the fire dancers and mariachi's are done performing..."

I am going through something similar. I think people aren't used to a DW and they dont understand it. A DW makes sense for me because more than 3/4 of our guests would be traveling either way however they are still making comments about traveling. The bottom line is its your wedding regardless where you have it.

jess

You know what I say? F them all. Harsh but true. Some people don't get destination weddings and you have too much going on to try and explain it to them. Think of it as less people to feed, that's what I did. The people who are really down for you will show up smiling. The complainers can stay at home and live out their sheltered lives. Haters.

How would some of these people feel if they had an in-town wedding and we said "why are you having it at the Hilton? can't you move it somewhere else?"

Don't justify you're wedding to people, just say good riddance to bad rubbish!

wedding themselves come with a lot of stress don't others add to the stress amount

I agree with Jamy.. tell them to F-off! then ask them if you had decided to do it in your hometown, were they going to fork over any money for the wedding, no right so F-off again!

It's your wedding day... period. If people aren't happy that you've chosen to invite them to a beautiful place to have a great vacation, then they can stay at home! I second the "one less mouth to feed" attitude - lol.