April 2010 Brides

OMG this is me too! My hometown wedding was going to cost me $50K, so FI and I said DW was the way to go!

 

 

 

Jersey weddings are out of control. The last one I went to had to cost 50K at least. My first wedding, 11 years ago was about 25K, and FI had a big first wedding too, so we both wanted something smaller.

 

I will tell you my mom was DYING to go to Kleinfelds to shop for a dress, just for the experience, but I was very happy to go to a local dress shop, and my Maggie Sotero cost less than my dress 11 years ago that I bought at Davids Bridal. go figure!

Well maybe it's just because my friends are like me, but we're all definitely into shooting for a low-budget wedding whenever possible. I guess because now more than before, parents aren't the first ones to offer up the money to pay for a wedding (as compared to past tradition) so we all have to expect to pay for ourselves and any gifted money along the way is just a bonus.

Here's the ironic thing - FI's parents are VERY equal opportunity with how they treat him and his brother and since they paid for a week of his brothers DW, his parents had basically stated they'd be giving us roughly an equal sum of money for our wedding. I flat out told FI that I didn't want this however (kind of shocking I know!) because a) I wouldn't feel right about it because of the amount and we had enough issues with their "input" as to how we should do things and I didn't want to give them any reason to feel entitled.

So I think situations like mine occur more as well. We know what we want for our weddings and it's not the same traditional things that our parents or families did so we have to have consideration that unless we've been saving a LONG time for a $50k wedding, it's just not going to happen. Plus I figure, that's the salary that some people make in an entire year! How could I reasonably spend that for a single day?

Sorry, that's just my rant for the morning.... hahaha and I can just feel FI's (tight-wad) influence flowing through my hands while I type LOL! Aaggghhh!!

Meghan - I totally agree - I'd rather pay my own and not have to deal with other people's influence!

Do you see my siggy - 8 people booked now - 2 more! My MIL told me she'd do it over the holiday...we have a few more friends that should be booking...it's slowly creeping up!

Michele - I wondered about that! I remember double checking wondering if it had said 6 or 8 people one of the last times I looked but I forgot to ask! Yay for people finally getting a move on it. I hope you end up with double digits at least by New Years!

A job interview- that's awesome! Good luck!

Thank you!! :) keep you all posted lol