Confessions

Good for you for enjoying YOUR day with the people that were there!

I confess that I am SOOO excited that FI's sister will no longer be staying with us for four months for a work term that would have been a really good opportunity for her...instead she will be on the other side of the countryto complete her work term in her own city. I feel like a snot bag for feeling happy that she did not get the work term she really wanted in the city where we live.
Now I feel better...

My Confession...

 

My mom says she may or not come to my vow renewal and I could care less, because she claims that she may not have the money, and went out to look for a new car since her MERCEDES wasn't acting right even though she has 2 OTHER vehicles, and it's just her and her husband. She irritates me anyways and she's a very negative and selfish person. I mean, I'm her ONLY daughter, why wouldn't you make ever effort to attend, especially, since I didn't have a wedding when we got married. Then..I feel a rant coming on.. I had always been overweight and I had a baby in December where I gained 60lbs in the pregnancy, then I lost all the pregnancy plus an extra 30lbs, and all she can says.. "I always wondered when you were going to lose the weight, I just didn't think you'd wait until you were grown"..

 

I hate one of my brother's wife, and I never call her by her name and always refer to her as SheB*tch..lol. and I've done it so much, I forgot her real name, and sometimes just refer to her as "that girl"

 

I always complain about how my husband doesn't do anything to help me plan this wedding where in reality I don't want him to help, because he will come with opinions..lol

 

That's it for now!

HA! I love these ones. I , however, did get to invite FI's ex! hehe. We get along quite well though, and FI and I have been together for almost ten years. Still, after all that time, I can't help but want to look better than her every time we are all together!

Sorry, I need to learn how to multi-quote...

I am right there with you girl! In fact, I think we should take a poll to see how many other brides out there do the exact same thing! hehe

AAAAAMEN!!!
I pretend to tell FI that I wish he would help, but his ideas are not as good as mine so I'm glad he doesn't chip in much ;-)

completely agree...when I ask him about an idea, I always find a way to "point him in the right direction"....mine!! I think he's figured me out and he plays along to make me happy which is fine by me

so my MOH and her boyfriend of a year broke up. she's very upset and I'm there for her...but now I feel like I can't talk to her a/b wedding stuff. I'm scared to bring up things that are fun and happy, but I also want to enjoy my engagement!!!

I confess that I resent my friends for being single. Not because I want to be single or anything - as if! - but because they make me feel guilty about being in a loving, committed relationship, when they are alone. So I feel as though I can't talk about the wedding with them, and if it does come up, all they do is bitch and moan about how they plan on being completely hammered the entire time, because they "hate weddings."

 

Personally, I think its just because they are miserable because they haven't found anyone worthwhile who doesn't have an STD or is already married with children old enough to be her siblings, while he is old enough to be her father.

 

 

I also confess that I have a lower opinion of my friend after getting involved with the old married guy. Who was also her first.

 

Geez, life is complicated.

I completely understand this one. When we got engaged, 3 of my 4 closest friends were either single or in very unhappy relationships(staying together because they have a kid) and I felt like I couldn't talk to them about it because it was almost like I shouldn't be happy, like my joy was causing them more pain. But then I realized that if they were the great friends I thought they were, they would be happy for me. It has taken a couple of them to come around(and for some it just took them starting to date someone) but you know what? When their turn comes, they will be just as excited as you are and suddenly they'll understand that they weren't as supportive as they should have been. I know that's not helpful right this second but eventually they'll understand. And as much as we want everyone to be as excited about our wedding as we are, people have their own issues to work out and some can't see past their own pain.

By the way, a lot of single or somewhat single people that have friends getting married feel like the bride will feel like she's better then them because she has found "the one" and they haven't. While I don't think you should have to walk on eggshells around your friends, I just try to be really sensitive that when I am giving a friend my honest opinion about a guy she's with, I try to keep it from sounding too condescending, even if that's not how I meant it. Just a thought since I'm sure your friend dating someone like that older guy is really hard for you to deal with as a friend if you don't think it's good for her.

Sorry...apparently I'm very talkative this morning.

I completely agree with you. Ever since my FI and I started dating, a couple of our "friends" began making smart a** comments or rolling their eyes when I would talk about something sweet he'd said or done. Then for a few months, they were also in relationships and suddenly everything was about love and relationships. Of course when things didn't work out for them, they were back to their cynical, miserable selves. Needless to say, I've distanced myself from these two and now they're more like aquaintances. It just sucks when you're genuinely there for people, but they can't seem to be happy for you!!