Are you having a bridal shower? Is it proper to have one with a DW?

Two different close friends of our family both wnat to throw me a shower! One will be just for me and one will be for me and my FI! I wasn't expecting anything but they insist which is so lovely. The one concern I had was for my girls! I've told my BM's and MOH that they should absolutely not feel as though they need to bring a gift to either shower. With the expenses of the trip, there's no way they should have to get gifts.

I am having one...actually two, one on each side! We invited everyone to our DW just as if we were having a wedding at home, so I guess I really didn't think twice about it. We are also still considering an AHR, so all of those people would also be invited to that. I can see how it might be different though if you only invited a small group to the actual wedding.

I have had two showers (one put on by mom and another by a girlfriend). Alot of people came that were not invited to the wedding...but there were NO formal invites that went out. Just word of mouth so it was optional to come or not. I found alot of people came because they wanted to support us..regardless of the fact that they were invited to the wedding as they realized it is a small wedding. Hope that helps.

You should have a shower. You are a bride and all brides should have a shower. If people don't want to go then they don't have to.

Ok, so here's my $1,000,000 question:

My wedding is May 29th and my AHR is July 24th.

Can I have my shower AFTER my wedding and before the AHR? I really would rather do it over the third weekend in June. Its a holiday weekend and I am starting a new job Jan 1 so would feel bad taking days off in March or April when I am taking 2 weeks in May for my wedding.

Is that BAD?

oh wow sweet! thanks girls. It sounds crazy to me but its what works

This is a very good question!!!

For me there will be no bridal shower "at my request". I have had my gfriend that is going talk about a girlie get together before we go south and I told her no because i don't want people buying me gifts. She would invite people that can not make it and people that were not invited. For me it is the gift thing and I really don't want people buying me things. I have been married before and is in my 40s, I just don't think it's appropriate for me.

However you younger brides that are getting married for the first time and starting out that new journey of life as a married woman, TOTALLY!! I think you should have one and if people are invited to the shower that are not to the wedding, they can choose to come or not. I think most people would just love the opportunity to see you before you leave and wish you well. "I would totally support the shower thing".

i am not sure if anyone is throwing me one but in my opinion it should only be the folks invited to either ahr or dw.