How Important Is Your Bling To Your Marriage

oohhh - well, that all sounds good! when you said "stangant" i assumed you meant boring, or just dull. just not good.

so question - what happens when you talk to Lawrence about how you feel?

that is a stunning ring. but i cannot even image how much that puppy costs.

do you two talk about wedding plans?

OK, I feel better! I thought you were saying things weren't going well...it sounds like you are just wondering where to go from here!

I wish I had good advice to give but I don't. I will tell you this though: as Ann said I would also get married with a twist-tie around my finger. A ring is not important to me. Its nice to have but its not the determining factor in whether or not I would say yes to someone if they proposed.

I know you want to marry BF so bad and I want it to happen for you also. I will say this though, if you guys are struggling with finances I don't think Tiffany's is the way to go. Yes the novo ring is stunning but it is ridiculously high priced. You could get the same diamond in the diamond district in NYC for 1/3 of the price.

Whatever happens I just hope that you do something that will make the both of you happy.

Catherine the ring is so not important, I am a 2 e-ring girl. Evertone proposed to me many many years ago, and since we had a baby on the way, and were trying to buy a bigger house he proposed with a inexpensive ring. I wore that ring with pride for over 5 years, both E and I also wore inexpensive silver bands to symbolize our comittment to one another. Now that we are more financially able Everton bought me the ring he always dreamed of buying me.Yes it is beautiful and sweet of him, but I would have married him regardless.

Catherine I also understand why you want to get married, there is something about being married to the father of your child that is important, and feels right. It also I think is important to the children as they get older, to have mom and dad married to one another. I know our kids wanted this for us, it solidifies the relationship in the eyes of others, even if it was already solidified for the two of you, this gives children a sense of security.

Talk to him and tell him the committment is what really matters, not the ring!

Kelly~

Have you ever looked at estate sales, or pawn shops for rings? You can sometimes find really beautiful jewellery for next to nothing. My girlfriend had a ring appraised for over $5000.00 that she bought at a pawn shop for a thousand dollars, something to think about.....

ok I stagnant was the wrong word sorry.

Have you ever looked at estate sales, or pawn shops for rings?

Here in philly is Jewelers Row with hundreds of stores that seel rings. tiffany would be a dream come true but Cracker Jacks have rings in them too.

do you two talk about wedding plans?

We havent talked about wedding plans lately. I share your ideas to get his thoughts about them. He smiles. He has made comments on wedding pictures and guest list.

there is something about being married to the father of your child that is important, and feels right. It also I think is important to the children as they get older, to have mom and dad married to one another. I know our kids wanted this for us, it solidifies the relationship in the eyes of others, even if it was already solidified for the two of you, this gives children a sense of security.

Yes it has to be me being married to my son's father that makes it that more special. Cause when we talk we talk about each other in the future.

Not at all. I don't have a engagement ring and didn't want one. I just didn't believe that something as emotional and spiritual as a marriage should be marked by or a condition of a material thing. (I am also not good with material things and have lost every expensive item I've ever owned . The only people who seem to have an issue with this are strangers who can't seem to understand why a woman wouldn't want a ring.

We have a strong relationship, just bought a house, got a puppy, and I have a new job that I love. My life is very complete without it!

If you explain this to him - how you are so happy with everything you already have and don't need any more - maybe he can start to think about it differently too!

I responded that I would NOT marry without an engagement ring.

Now before anyone gets upset I just mean the traditional diamond/metal ring. In fact, my first ring from Maurice was the Tiffany promise ring (silver band with tiny stone). That's the ring I cried over since it was the meaning behind it. When I received the actual e-ring it was great too but didn't strike an emotional outburst.

I can understand your drive to be married! You've shared many of life's major moves with him and now you want to know what's next. While we can all suggest patience... I was once a girl very anxious around holidays wondering if it would ever come. Trust, it will!!!

I think your conversation about wedding and if you are showing him rings like the Tiffany may be placing unecessary pressure. If it's financial just ask! I asked Maurice how he felt about a woman proposing. Tell him how you feel about the union, not necessarily the big wedding itself.