wtf????????

Is there any posts here (that I haven't found) with creative wording on the STD do at least get a tentative number for planning purposes? Surely, there's got to be something. It's frustrating to spend so much time and energy on the STD's and RSVP's for them not to be valued by the people that get them.

The only thing I think you can do is just make it as easy and convenient for them to rsvp (i.e. pre-paid postage, tick boxes, use your TA, tentative poll on a wedding website). No matter what though, you will still get people who will not RSVP. I think unless you had to plan something that was REALLY that time sensitive, it is okay for someone to rsvp up to a couple of months before -- and, if I am honest, the only realistic number you are going to get is around that time; the tentative 'yes' rsvp a year+ in advance may not hold to the end.

I haven't gone through any of this yet and I realize that of course everybody says "they're in" at first, but when it will come to booking it will be a whole different story...but I'm starting to think I'm going to be making a whole lot of phone calls

Wholly crap, my wedding is May 1st and I haven't even sent out my invites yet. I did send out the STD and have received a lot of verbal responses but until thier booked I ain't counting them. You should try to get an idea from your guests if they will be attending or not. The last thing you want to do is wait till the last minute to start buying all of your things.

thanks ladies!!!! i guess its not just my circle of people who have no clue . just going to give them a lil longer i guess til jan but thats my cut off. i need to purchase so many things and i need a more accurate number. i also would like to do a surprise excursion but that requires a number also. thanks for sharing in my venting it did make me feel better!!!! good luck ladies with your planning!!!! xoxoxox:)

UGH I totally hear you!! We are two months out and requested RSVPS to be in by this Monday...yea we still have 80 guest unaccounted for (ie NO RSVP...email...phone call ZILCH)!! I finally decided...if you don't RSVP by the RSVP date and I run out of "extras" for OOT bags and what not you just don't get one. (You may not even get dinner if I've already got everything sorted out and you "decide to come") I mean really how hard is it to drop in a pre-addressed and stamped card IN THE MAIL!! Maybe it's bitchy but I really don't need the added stress right now.

Hang in there

egsarah- i hear you !!!!! how hard is it to just put it in the mail, by now for you 2 months to go and you still don't know if your going to go? happy for you that your getting married in 2 months , wish i was too!!!!

The RSVP thing totally annoys me also!!!! That's why the dam date is there!!!!!!!!! Just make up your freakin mind and put it back in the mail! I don't get it. My bridal shower was last Sunday at my parent's house and some of the guests called my mom the day before (said they forgot all about it!)...mind you, they rented tables and chairs! We have our RSVP for the wedding mid November (only 7 weeks from Jan 8th)...but that's also because we included an RSVP for our AHR too! Hoping everyone cooperates this time around. You still have time though...don't stress too much! Everything comes together in the end

Wow, I totally understand what you're going through. I think every bride here is or was in the same situation.

My vent: I have people who told me they couldn't go when I sent out the STD's and I still sent them the invites (out of respect mostly). Those people have NOT responded to tell me what they already decided!!! It would be great if they were able to come, but c'mon, I put return postage on the RSVP people!!! We leave in 3 months & 4 days!! UGH!!!

P.S. - I love the title of this thread!! There should be a general WTF thread for crazy things that don't make sense (if there isn't one already).