How much flexibility do we have in the ceremony?

Agape Gems · February 23, 2008

These are some vows I have been saving, if we decide to write our won i will probably take bits and pieces from these :

You are the song

My heart has been seeking

Your love is the music

These vows the lyrics

As I __________

Do declare to you ______

I love you

I need you

I will always stand by you

On this day I join my life with your life

That we may live, learn and grow together

In perfect harmony

That our home may be a place where music dwells

This is my song, my sacred oath

To be quiet when you need me to listen

To speak and respond

with words that build you up

Instead of tear you down

I promise to seek new ways to say

â€œI love youâ€

To discover with you

The potential of who we are together

The possibilities are endless

And no matter what life may bring

I will be here for you

Through the good and the difficult

Forever yours

I believe we are destined to be together

You are my soul-mate

My song, my melody

I promise to be your faithful companion

In this journey called life

I will love you unconditionally

Always be here for you

You can find comfort and acceptance

Within my embrace

Birdie07 · February 25, 2008

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Originally Posted by Heidi

I posted this in an already existing thread, but I'm afraid it's getting buried. Plus, I think this might benefit other people too!

I have a few questions about the most important part of this whole experience... the actual marriage ceremony!! Since my wedding is at a resort, the minister/judge is provided by the resort.

1. Will we meet the minister prior to the ceremony? (I don't think we meet with him/her until the day of the wedding)

2. Can we specify what we want minister to say? (I was reading past threads of beautiful ceremonies like Janet's here: http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...-ceremony.html. How did/would you handle asking the officiant to read it?)

3. How 'easy' is it to add readings, sand ceremonies, etc? (Should we just delegate certain guests to read, etc instead of relying on the judge/minister?)

4. Can we say whatever vows we want?

Any insight would be very helpful! Thanks!

Sorry I didn't see this hahaha. I totally forgot about it. My bad.
I did NOT meet the minister prior to the ceremony. You can specify what you want him to say. We added our sand ceremony and he read it for us. I did end up going with his vows b/c I didn't have time and it was a lot of work. But you can pick your own vows. We just had it typed and gave it to Chandlyn at our meeting and she gave it to the judge. Our guy was not a minister. Pretty easy.

Bride010101 · February 25, 2008

Does anyone have a copy of the wording used at ROR if we don't bring our own?

Birdie07 · February 25, 2008

I think its different depending on religious or not. B/c I remember Mo saying her guy didn't say 'death til us part' and my guy did. My guy was a judge not a minister.