More Mil Drama.. It Never Ends!

[Mrsktobe]

Remember my lovely Mother in law who created and started so much drama with the wedding?  She is back at it again. We are having our at home reception here in a few weeks and I created a wedding album to display at the at home reception so people could flip through it and see pictures. When I was done it, I sent it to my mom and her, as a COURTESY - just to make sure they were happy with the photos in it. My mom asked if I could switch out a few but was really nice about it - it was more of, hey my hair looks bad, can you switch the photos out.

 

However, mother in law texted me Tuesday, Wednesday and then cried to her son about the book all last week because she was upset that I included pictures of my husband dancing with his godmother (which is her sister and yes they get along) in the book and that I didn't have enough photos of HER family (I did and counted them - it was half and half and very fair). Also she started in on that I didn't get any photos of richard's brother and his fiance alone with us (we didn't have alone pictures with us and the siblings as the sun was setting and we literally had 25 minutes to get photos) Like what the hell - she could of asked for the photos in Mexico at the wedding?????

 

Anyways, after crying to my husband about it and making a huge deal, I had to change out one page (I refused to change any of the other pages. screw her) and order ANOTHER book (which my husband paid for) to appease her.

 

Pretty much I'm just sick of this bullsh*t with her. Why does this lady have to make my life miserable?? ARGHH!!!

[TinkerSofi]

I'm sorry you're dealing with this . I wish I had an explanation but some people will always complicate things, it's like they love it. No matter how simple things might be, like they say in Spanish, they're always trying to find the cat's 5th leg hahah

[kellymiller]

That is ridiculous. It seems to me based on this and reading your other posts there is NOTHING you can do to make her happy! I wouldn't try too hard to make her happy, as it seems nothing will. Just brush it off and keep doing your own thing with your hubby

[IzzyDeee]

Is your husband seeing your side to it, or only his mothers? If I was you I'd stop trying to appease her and do it as it is! It's obviously fair and you can't get much fairer than 50/50!! If you start to give into her now you're looking forward to her getting more and more control. Gotta take a stand somewhere even though it's hard, but in the end she will hopefully look back and see how ridiculous she was and has acted about certain things! Sorry to hear about this; you're really stuck in-between a rock and a hard place @@Mrsktobe

 

 

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[calgarybride2015]

Is your husband seeing your side to it, or only his mothers? If I was you I'd stop trying to appease her and do it as it is! It's obviously fair and you can't get much fairer than 50/50!! If you start to give into her now you're looking forward to her getting more and more control. Gotta take a stand somewhere even though it's hard, but in the end she will hopefully look back and see how ridiculous she was and has acted about certain things! Sorry to hear about this; you're really stuck in-between a rock and a hard place @@Mrsktobe

 

 

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You actually said what I had planned too - the more you 'give in' to her the more she will do it. Like a little kid you did what you could and it was fair. She seems to like to complicate things then gets her way ... Ugh sorry you have to deal with that.

 

 

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[TinkerSofi]

I agree that you have to draw the line somewhere and this is just getting ridiculous. It's just a photobook, and it was divided evenly. From my own experience, I hate confronting people but they respect you much more after doing it and setting your limit. While I hate myself in that particular moment it feels great after because their attitude usually changes. Then you wonder why you didn't do it before haha

 

 

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[FutureMrsGlover]

I agree with all of the comments and you just can't please everyone.   One thing this experience has taught me is to do things to make myself and my future husband happy.  Everyone else is irrelevant.  It seems that no one likes to see others happy.  Misery loves company.

 

Try not to let the MIL get to you too much!  I know it is hard but at least you don't live with her or have to see her every day!!! 

[acw271011]

Sweetie - you married her son. For some moms, doesn't matter who it is, nothing will ever be good enough. It might just mean finding a happy medium somewhere along the way. There is one thing that I do want to say. Just a little piece of advice from an old lady. Try not to put your husband in the middle. You're his wife and she is his mother and it's a tough situation to be in. I know because I've been on the mother in law end of things. Pick your battles if you can, and try and understand how all of this might be making your husband feel. She just might be really jealous of you because you won her son's heart and that's sometimes a tough thing for some mom's to accept. I really can sympathize. You might never have any kind of easy relationship with his mom. Or it might just take a bit of time now that you're married. I can understand how frustrating it feels when it doesn't seem like you can do anything right for her, but usually there is something behind it, whether she never thought he would actually leave her, or she's lonely. Tough to know. She just might be the type of MIL that is going to be a royal pain in your behind for your entire married life!! lol If that's the case, heaven forbid, you and hubby will need to talk a lot about it and find a way that you both can cope.

 

Good luck!! When I read some of the things you ladies post here it really makes me stop and think sometimes. I have married kids so yes I'm a MIL and believe me, there are times I KNOW I've been the MIL from the hot place! lol It's a tough spot to be in. These chicks came along and took my boys away. I got grandkids out of the deal but I don't see or hear from my boys the way I did before. It's hard. Hang in there. Sooner or later, we do come around!

[TinkerSofi]

Sweetie - you married her son. For some moms, doesn't matter who it is, nothing will ever be good enough. It might just mean finding a happy medium somewhere along the way. There is one thing that I do want to say. Just a little piece of advice from an old lady. Try not to put your husband in the middle. You're his wife and she is his mother and it's a tough situation to be in. I know because I've been on the mother in law end of things. Pick your battles if you can, and try and understand how all of this might be making your husband feel. She just might be really jealous of you because you won her son's heart and that's sometimes a tough thing for some mom's to accept. I really can sympathize. You might never have any kind of easy relationship with his mom. Or it might just take a bit of time now that you're married. I can understand how frustrating it feels when it doesn't seem like you can do anything right for her, but usually there is something behind it, whether she never thought he would actually leave her, or she's lonely. Tough to know. She just might be the type of MIL that is going to be a royal pain in your behind for your entire married life!! lol If that's the case, heaven forbid, you and hubby will need to talk a lot about it and find a way that you both can cope.

 

Good luck!! When I read some of the things you ladies post here it really makes me stop and think sometimes. I have married kids so yes I'm a MIL and believe me, there are times I KNOW I've been the MIL from the hot place! lol It's a tough spot to be in. These chicks came along and took my boys away. I got grandkids out of the deal but I don't see or hear from my boys the way I did before. It's hard. Hang in there. Sooner or later, we do come around!

that's such a great post and it is true, I don't think sometimes we stop enough to think about what it must feel like to be the mom. My brother has his first serious girlfriend (where I see things going somewhere) and even though I really like the girl I'll admit, I find myself being a little jealous sometimes haha. He's my baby brother and I'm very protective . Sometimes I think it has a lot to do with the changing dynamics of the family and people have to get used to that. Hopefully your MIL will adjust and it will all be fine. I got lucky that my MIL is awesome but I'm sure it will take an adjustment period for her too until it feels like I'm part of the family rather than being the woman taking her baby away. 

[veryvalentine]

I love this!  It's so nice to hear the other side of the perspective.  I think about what it would be like to have boys and I think I will totally be a crazy MIL lol  ( I know, I know, I'm going to have to work on that).  Anyway, so nice to read both sides.