Snswedding2016 Planning Thread - Jan 9 2016 (Azul Fives)

[snswedding2016]

Updates

 

Sorry I've been so MIA on the forums lately. It's been a hectic and stressful couple of weeks. Sean and I went to PEI for a family wedding at the end of Oct and while we were gone I got some not so great news. My mom who has been dealing with a bunch of different health issues got the news that she will need to go on dialysis. We had a feeling that this would most likely be in the cards down the road but we really didn't think it would be happening this soon especially with the wedding only being 2 months away. We don't know exactly when it will happen and when she will have the surgery to get set up for it so we're in a bit of a holding pattern until then. It may get pushed until after the new year but even if it does I'm not sure if it is a good idea for her to travel before then. We have to talk to her doctors about it and make a decision. I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My mom and I are very close and beyond the fact that I of course want her there, this vacation would have been so good for her. Selfishly I really want her to be there but we'll have to see what is best for her health. We're both trying to stay positive in the meantime but it has been hard. With only 2 months left and a lot of little things to do I'm finding it very difficult to stay motivated to do it. I'm still so excited for the wedding but it's feeling really bittersweet at the moment. I definitely have moments of extreme guilt that we're having a destination wedding. Right now we're trying to create a plan B where we make the legal ceremony a little bigger than we initially planned so that she can be a part of that in case she can't make it to Mexico. We have a consultation with the surgeon on Thursday so we'll hopefully have a better idea at that point. 

 

Our final payments are due on Fri Nov 6...although my TA told everyone that the deadline was last Friday so we basically have our numbers. We have 47 adults, 9 kids plus 4 adults off resort (including me and Sean). I'm very happy with our numbers - they are higher than I thought they would be but exactly how many my TA said to budget for (she's good!). We may have 2 more people replace two people who cancelled so we'll know by Friday if they are in or not. 

 

I'm waiting to hear back from my WC at Karisma. I'm feeling a little anxious as my final payment for the resort is due on the 10th and I still have a lot of outstanding items to confirm. I've left her a voicemail today so hopefully she gets back to me soon!

 

I'm having a spa day with my maids of honour this sunday (while Sean's away on his PEI Bachelor weekend -yes, he's going back even though we were just there last week.). We're going to finish putting together my welcome bags. I still need to finish our paper products but I need to confirm details with my WC so we'll see if I can get that done by the weekend.

 

My bachelorette party is now set for the last weekend in Nov and I'm going away with my bridesmaids to Niagara Falls. We're going to do some shopping, a spa day and some partying!  It should be fun!

 

Those are all the updates so far! Fingers crossed that my mom starts feeling better and that she'll be able to come to the wedding. 

[Wafflesmom]

Oh hun, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Big hugs to you. I hope for the very best for her and am also hoping for a speedy recovery so she can make it to Mexico. It's so nice that you're going to make your Legal ceremony a little more than you were planning so she can partake in it.

 

Your numbers are great, I'm so jealous!

 

As for your WC, that's so frustrating! I hope she gets back to you soon

 

And your bachelorette sounds so fun! Can't wait to hear the shenanigans that will happen in Niagara lol

[calgarybride2015]

Hugs!!! I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I can only imagine her emotions and yours. I hope it all works out so she can attend in Mexico. Please keep us posted ️

 

I wish her the best with the specialist and treatment. Hoping for positive outcomes.

 

 

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Edited November 3, 2015 by calgarybride2015

[Smellsey]

Hugs to your mom xoxoxo I hope you get good news!

 

I also have a lot to resolve before I can pay our final payment too. I have emailed her a bunch of times lol! I know that @@TinkerSofi said she paid 2 weeks late so I hope it is ok.

[snswedding2016]

@@Wafflesmom @@calgarybride2015 @ @smellesy

 

Thank you ladies for all of your support and well wishes!! I will definitely keep you all posted on what happens. I'm holding on to thinking positive thoughts and hoping for the best. 

 

I finally got a hold of my WC over the phone today. I had a couple of unanswered emails and I've been calling her extension yesterday and today with no answer. I decided to call the main wedding line and she picked up! She was in a training conference yesterday and has been answering the main line all day today. We had a great conversation and went over all the details. I clarified my final payment date as the date online said Nov 10 but my contract had Nov 25...it is in fact the 25th and she said if I needed a couple of extra days that wouldn't be a problem. We also spoke about that negative review I posted about before - it was funny she knew exactly which one I was referring to without me having to go into many specifics. I told her that I took it all with a grain of salt (especially with how so many things she was complaining about were beyond the hotels control) but that I did want to go over a couple of things that did concern me a little and we talked it through and it's all fine. 

 

One of the them was about the number of people per table. I had confirmed that 10 people would be fine at the round tables and my WC said they will fit but it is a bit tight. She recommended 8-9 as being ideal. Most of my tables of 10 have kids and she said that would be fine. Just an FYI for other Azul Fives brides. 

 

I'm getting excited about my bachelorette. The spa appointments have been booked and apparently we're making several stops on the way to Niagara...I'm very curious where we're going. I know shopping is one of them but I'm not sure what else. I'm so nosey....lol

 

I had a bit of a melt down last night with Sean. I've been feeling a lot of emotions right now and feel pretty stressed with the amount of planning left to do as well as everything going on with my mom. Poor Sean - I kind of took it out on him a little. I do need more help from him but planning really isn't his thing. He's great once he's there and can see it in front of him and he's all about making decisions. Like when we were there at the end of Sept, he was amazing! Right now though I do need so more help from him with the little things and he is trying but I kinda freaked out a bit last night. I think I'm just looking at the to do list and wanting to tear out my hair a little...this is normal at the 2 month mark right?!?

 

Here is my to do list...

 

Legal Ceremony

-Confirm with location that we can still have it there (did I mention Ceili Cottage is having permit issues with their Yurt...sigh) otherwise move to Plan B

-Marriage License

-Finish legal ceremony script, confirm with officiant

-Find a nice restaurant to do a small reception with my mom and cousins (just in case my mom can't go to mexico)

-Find a dress for the legal ceremony

 

Mexico Wedding

-Renew passports

-Finish DIY projects ("S&S" letters, magnets, love quotes on vellum, escort cards, kids activity book)

-Assemble welcome bags

-Finish and print paper items (menu, welcome letter, itinerary etc)

-Get additional centrepiece items (need more books, candles and pedestals)

-Finish symbolic ceremony script & write our vows

-Final dress fitting/alterations

-Get additional luggage (find out updated luggage allowance from transat)

-Finish playlist and start putting it together 

-Make 'grooming' appointments

 

 

...I'm sure there's more

Edited November 3, 2015 by snswedding2016

[Smellsey]

@@snswedding2016 I feel the same way as you! So much to do.. so little time. I feel as those there is only so much you can do 8 months to 1 year out and then it all has to get done the last 2 months. Xo

[Wafflesmom]

We're all here to support you in any way we can Hoping the thoughts and prayers across Canada will help!

 

As for the stress, I'm sure Sean understands that you don't mean to take it out on him. You're so organized and I'm certain you both will be able to tackle your list in no time!

 

And I'm glad spa appointments and shopping is planned for your bachelorette. You deserve some R&R

[snswedding2016]

@@Wafflesmom thanks so much!! I told my mom she's got a ton of brides from across the country cheering her on! It made her day!

 

We went to Moores today to order Sean's pants and vest. We have a group booking with them for all of our groomsmen but because we're purchasing and not renting there wasn't a rush to order. Sean tried it on but there was another guy there trying on a tux for a wedding in a light grey that Sean really liked. Unfortunately the lighter grey only comes in a rental option not available to purchase. We can rent the pants and vest separately for the week for $145 plus tax (which isn't too bad). After Sean tried both on I think we're still leaving towards the original option. I told Sean that I really want him to be happy with what he's wearing so we decided to think about it for a few more days. 

 

Here is the original option

 

Here is the lighter grey in the vest compared to the original colour in the pants

 

I think looking at the photos that the lighter grey washes him out a bit. He isn't totally happy with the colour of the buttons on the vest of the original grey but the woman at the store said if we found buttons we really like, she would swap them out for no extra charge!

 

@@Smellsey I'm glad I'm not the only one especially because we're getting married 2 days apart...it's nice to know we're in the same boat together. I just don't want to be super stressed over Christmas but maybe that is unavoidable...

Edited November 4, 2015 by snswedding2016

[calgarybride2015]

You are under a lot of stress with your family so go easy on yourself. I think your list is manageable and will help pass time as you get into your final count down. I was the same. I had many a tears the closer I got and I was putting everything together.

 

If you need to renew your passports I would probably do that ASAP incase there is a hold up. I know it usually doesn't happen but it does.

 

Ummmm probably out of line but Sean looks like that Australian actor in those pics. Hehehe.

 

Hugs

 

 

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[Wafflesmom]

I think Sean looks great in both but prefer the darker grey one. The light one looks almost beige though it may just be the photo. I can see what you mean about it kinda washing him out but it still looks good on him. At least either option looks good, one less thing to stress about

Edited November 4, 2015 by Wafflesmom