Meandhim - Grand Palladium Bavaro - Nov 2015

[acw271011]

@@acw271011 was it a template they gave you or did you make it yourself? I designed one myself but if they have a template that might be easier. I've been printing all my stuff at staples so I know the colors would match.

 

No - it's my file. I designed it then someone fixed it up for me and made it nicer. It's done in Powerpoint. There's enough room at the top for a hole for the door handle to hang it from, and the design like I said is 2 per page. I just have to drop the file off on a data stick at Staples and they'll print it and cut it for me. i'm borrowing a hole punch to do the top and.... voilà!

[yycbride2016]

@@acw271011 Perfect, then my file should work. I can't wait to see how yours turn out!

[Meandhim]

So 90 days to the wedding day and today I am feeling heart broken...

 

Right on queue... just as the deadline to pay in full is just a few days away, bring on the drama...*Sigh*

 

 

Let’s start with some positive...

 

beside the 4 people that are just waiting on changes to be made by AC, and the 2 people who have cancelled everyone has paid in full before the deadline! Yea!

 

Next the AC drama...

 

Our AC rep is awful...just as we getting down to the wire she is sending my TA the wrong forms, missing payments my TA sent her months ago! And in the middle of all this she then decides to go on vacation without letting us know, or giving us an alternative agent to deal with in her leave,  or putting on a out of office reply on email or voice-mail  We found out after escalating to her supervisor, so much wasted time! Hopefully it gets straightened out before Monday!...I'm so over AC! 

 

Now for the family drama...

 

My FI's Brother and his Husband have decided to cancel. They informed us they could not afford it. Ok....so normally I would consider this a very acceptable reason and I would be ok with this...but not this time and here is why...

 

• This is my FI's only brother; he lives just a few mins from us. His oldest Sister passed away last year, and his other sister lives in Australia. So now that his brother has cancelled the only Family my FI has coming to the wedding are his parents. My FI is very hurt L

 

• I think they are lying...This may seem wrong of me to say but out all the people going to our wedding they are the people who can most afford it. My FI’s Brother makes more than me and my FI combined and his Partner makes more than that. They usually take 4 trips a year. Since putting down a deposit on our wedding they have gone to Cuba for a week, two days before they told us they would cancel they bought at $2000 Dog.

 

• They don’t want to go, they have somewhere else to be...Their trips usually consist of going to “Bear” Events...which are organized events for big burly gay men. Not that there is anything wrong with that BUT two days after they canceled the FI’s Brother  In-Law posted on FB (he doesn't think that we can see this) that he was going to a “Bear” event in Fort Lauderdale Florida that happens to be part way through our wedding week.

 

Now for the WORST thing...

 

This is Family but I wouldn’t consider it drama...it’s just really sad and unfortunate...My Nan (my Dad’s Mom) and my Favorite person in the world is dying...The Dr’s have estimated a few days ago she has about 3 months left ...which is pretty much how much time til the wedding. My Dad is really close to his mom so he will forgo my wedding for her funeral especially since my legal wedding is already done and he was there. My Aunts would also do the same and possibly my cousins and brothers too.  I totally understand. Nan made me promise that if something would happen I would still go...plus I have friends who have just paid a ton of money to go.  

 

The whole reason I wanted a real wedding besides the obvious is to have my Dad walk me down the aisle, give his speech and do the father daughter dance. My Family are also really important to me so I wanted them all there to celebrate with me...almost seems like there is no point if they are not going to be there and I would just want to be at home with them.  

 

My Nan was diagnosed with bone cancer last year and so I’ve come to terms that soon she will not be here, she is old and has lived a great life! I’ve taken every opportunity to spend time with her and tried to make it all important and special ... but I didn’t even think that would happen this soon and around my wedding and that I might not be there for her funeral or that my family might not make it to my wedding. I know that this is something that is uncontrollable and may not even happen but I can help but feel incredibly and overwhelmingly sad right now.

[calgarybride2015]

First off, here is a big (((HUG))) for you!

 

You are going thru a lot right now and you are more than allowed to have all these emotions.

 

I am sooo shocked you are having such a time with AC. I had no issues with them whatsoever, even when they changed the date everything transferred over smoothly.  Sounds like you got the dud of the bunch and I am sorry you are going thru all this.  Thank god for TA's!!!

 

I don't even know what to say about your FI's brother. I would be utterly choked to be honest.  My sister almost didn't come to my wedding but she is broke and that is no lie. Thankfully my aunt stepped up and lent her the money.  That said, you have some insider info that makes you being upset very reasonable.  I don't even know what to say or suggest, but I feel for you guys.

 

I am so sorry to hear about your nan!  I am glad you can look at the positive that she has hard a great life, but it still sucks to know you are going to lose someone you love so much. In trying to stay positive, the 'time frames' they give people to live are all such a guess.  Honestly they gave my mom 6 weeks to live and she showed them and fought hard for 1.5 years. It was a roller coaster but it goes to show that they aren't always right. Hopefully your nan hangs on ((hugs))  What a tough thing to be dealing with right now.    I am sure it's also super emotional for all your family.  Sometimes life isn't fair

 

Go have a drink, you deserve one.

[Meandhim]

@@calgarybride2015

 

Thanks for the HUG!I needed it! Wish I could have a drink!

 

I know there is no real advice to give or words of wisdom for this one but I just had to get the feelings out so I don't lose my mind.

 

Your a nurse right? do you mind if I PM you some questions?

 

I am trying to stay positive...I know that a timeline is just that..a guess...and not always correct. I know my Nan can live as long as her spite allows...she's a tough old bird...but I found that after my legal ceremony she started to decline a crazy amount....it's like that's what she was waiting for and now she can go...for her it's all about her spirit...and her spirits are pretty low right now I know she has to go sometime...I just want to be able to be there...and if it happens close to my wedding I can't and I just want my wedding to be a happy time too. Life can just kick you sometimes! But hey...it's all in the future...guess I'll just have to wait and see...

 

As for my FI's Brother...like I said "can't afford" it would be a reasonable acceptable excuse any other time, but if they don't want to be there that's fine too...just say so, don't lie, that's what hurts...we want people to be there because they want to..not out of obligation. But Oh well over and done now...just so disappointing. 

[deecol]

@@Meandhim First I wanted to say how much I love everything you have done so far.  That "I Spy" is brilliant, and I'm hoping you can bring a copy to the meet up so I can get a closer look at it?

 

Second, my heart broke for you when reading your last post and I am giving you a ginormous hug when I see you on Oct 2nd.  I'm so sorry about everything that's going on and to hear about your Nan.  I don't know what to say except I am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way! xo

[Meandhim]

@@deecol thanks! I know there's nothing anyone can say but I do appreciate your positive thoughts!

 

I will definitely bring whatever I have done so far to the next meet up so you can take a closer look.

 

 

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[calgarybride2015]

I am a nurse! I can do my best to answer or seek out answers for you. I've only done women's health in all my years send me a msg!

 

 

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[TinkerSofi]

I really wanted to say that I am so sorry for all the things you're going through right now. I hope that you can still enjoy your week despite having these things thrown at you . I'm sending you one humongous hug, I can't even imagine what it must be like. On a more positive note, I have heard of many people who were given a few days or weeks to live, but somehow they waited until a specific moment to "let go". My great grandma was like that, she waited until her great great granddaughter was born. She was able to hold her once and about a day later she passed away. I hope this is the case with your Nan, maybe she'll be able to hang in there until you come back. 

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your brothers in law as well. We had some people who spent the whole week with long faces and cooped up in their room, no smiles, not even on the wedding day. I tried to stay away because honestly I didn't want to deal with that kind of negativity. I was there to enjoy and have fun and that's what I did. By the way, this was someone really important in the wedding. The moral of the story is, if people don't want to be there, you're better off not having them there. I know it hurts right now, but it's better this way than for them to make you feel like they went there because they were obliged rather than because they wanted to. 

[yycbride2016]

Hey hun. I'm sorry to hear about all of your recent challenges. I know there isn't much that can be said but just know that me and all the other ladies on this forum are here for you 100% whenever you need us. Even if its just to pour out all your feelings. I know this time is tough but you will get through this and it will make you stronger than ever! Keep your head high and fake that smile until you don't have to fake it anymore