Acw271011 So This Is Not A Planning Thread.... But

[calgarybride2015]

You are a strong and beautiful woman!!! You are an inspiration to everyone and we all look up to you

 

Hope you sort out the ceremony. I replied before about feeling frustrated for you.

 

Love love the dress. Gorgeous

 

 

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[TinkerSofi]

oh my goodness! All of you are just so sweet! I'm sorry for making anyone cry. Honestly - that wasn't what I intended at all. It's just what our life has been. My miracle is that Doug stuck with me through everything. Believe me when I say there are men that wouldn't. Especially with the hours and hours he spent at the hospital. I wouldn't have made it through without him. He has absolutely been my rock. If I think about any of this having happened with my ex...... oh lord. That's a no go. It just doesn't bear thinking about! lol He would have been out with the boys drinking somewhere! lol  Thank you for the compliments, really. It means a lot. They say that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger... only way from here ladies is up!!

 

 

So we're still struggling with a location. That's my biggest worry right now. Hopefully it will all get sorted out soon and I can relax with that part of things.

 

What to wear?

 

This is where I really need the advice and critique. I've said before that my dress when we got married was very simple. it just seemed to work at the time. But to walk towards Doug in Mexico, I want his jaw to drop. I want him to see me and think "oh yeah. it was worth it" lol Crazy I know. I have pretty strong ideas on what I'm thinking about. it's just trying to narrow it down. I found this fabulous site on facebook called "The Last Minute Bride". They have some really beautiful dresses at about 70% off and it's quite a few of the "big" designers - Morilee, Allure, Essense, etc. I know I want a keyhole back. Or at least I'm 90% sure I do. lol I'm trying to get time to go and try some styles and see what works. I absolutely don't want it over the top and budget wise I don't want to spend "over the top" either. I also found a dress on preownedweddingdresses.com that I really like. As you can see I'm all over the map. And then some. lol

 

Comments definitely appreciated!!

 

 

I heard back from Joyce at Dream Weddings and what we thought might work, won't. We're back to considering Grand Coral Beach. Don't get me wrong - it's gorgeous, but my issue is I don't want beach. No sand. I want to wear shoes. I know it's the dream of some ladies, but it has never been mine. So still working on it.

I totally understand you with the whole "no sand thing" because I am the same way. That's just not what I wanted. I've seen other resorts with nice venues that are not on the beach, sadly not a lot of them had what we wanted. Many didn't have the space for our guests, but since your renewal will have less guests I'm sure you'll have an easier time finding something . I really hope it all gets sorted out. I'm wondering if your TA can act as the mediator between you and Karisma to get you somewhere with them. I'm really hoping for the best here. 

 

I like both dresses. I like more the mermaid style than ballgown but it all depends on you and what you're most comfortable in. I'd say go shopping and try a bunch of things on, maybe even some of the dresses in your wishlist. I was pretty surprised how quickly I made up my mind as to what I wanted and what didn't work for me. Some of the things I loved on models looked horrendous on me and vice versa. Actually, for the dress I got, if I had seen it online I would have never bought it in a million years (or thought to try it really). I don't think the model does it justice. 

[kcole123]

Love Love Love the lace dress (mermaid style). It is beautiful for sure. I am all about the lace anyway..lol

 

Can't wait to see more posts from you as your planning progresses.

[acw271011]

I think he will!  I adore his ttd sessions, and the couple shots he's been posting on Facebook lately are over the top amazing.  I'm sure this is one area you definitely won't regret!!

 

I know! I have him on my FB too and I love it when one of his postings pops up! Especially the sunset ones! Wow!!

@@acw271011,

 

Your medical history is - wow. I am a nurse and I have seen patients with the same diagnoses, and all I can say is you are a strong woman! It doesn't just take abx and surgery to heal the body, it truly takes willpower and determination! You should be very proud of yourself and your support systems. I wish you the best health and keep keepin on! 

 

Also, I must say, I think you are just - so - cool! I love the story of you and your husband.& the strength of your relationship.&your honesty. "And I've said this I know to most of you - there isn't anyone as happy for you as you are. It's no reflection on you. It's just life. Even more so when you get to our age."

 

I def need to keep this in mind. I know that I have posted before stating that sometimes I get sad that certain people can't make it.

You have been so wonderful with advice.

 

I believe ST does airbrush make-up, well I  am having The Best Moments do my make-up in April and they use airbrush as well. I'll def let you know how it turns out in the humidity

 

 

It's the airbrush that I really want. I had never heard of it before until just before our wedding so reading everything here about Styling Trio it's almost the thing that decided it all. And of course the reviews and their pictures. It's amazing!! And hey - maybe they'll be able to do something about the wrinkles!! lol (at least temporarily)

@@acw271011

 

Wow..I think I must of be absent (mind and Body) from the forums while you had most of your medical problems, because I didn't know the full story til now! And as everyone has said..YOU ARE ONE STRONG WOMAN! So glad that you are ok!!!!!

 

Everyone has a mate somewhere out there...sometimes it takes some people a little longer to find them...I believe in fate. Things don't always happen when you want them to but sometimes its when you need them to. Seems like you two were brought together just in time to save each other. It's a lovely love story.

 

Sounds like you have made a good decision with the photographer according to marinah84. As for the make up that is something I'm a little afraid of too...I don't wear any make up in my everyday life, and very minimal when dressing up...I had my make up done for a friends wedding...they did a great job on my friend but when it came to me I looked like they shot me with a make-up gun! Even after we went back to the room took some of it off...it still looked horrible in pictures...so now I'm torn about what to do for my wedding.... let me know what you do!

 

Once you actually book a place it will all start falling into place...(I believe you said that to me at one point! ) Can't wait to hear more about it!!

 

There is nothing in this world for you to apologize for!! You had enough of your own things going on, a heck of a lot more important than our stuff. I was away from the site for about 5 o 6 weeks so there was no way for you to know, and then only back bits at a time until the energy level started to come back and i could sit up for longer periods of time.

You are a strong and beautiful woman!!! You are an inspiration to everyone and we all look up to you

 

Hope you sort out the ceremony. I replied before about feeling frustrated for you.

 

Love love the dress. Gorgeous

 

 

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See, I can so easily say how amazing you are! You work, you have TWINS!! and you put that gorgeous wedding together! But thank you for the compliment!

[acw271011]

You ladies have hooked me onto Etsy and there are so many things that I never knew were there!! lol So I've been all over the site looking at earrings, and necklaces and stuff. So many pretty things!

 

Favours

 

The one thing I do want to do for the friends that are supposed to be going with us is a bag. Thankfully it will keep costs down because it will only be a couple but I've investigated some of the ideas here. Fans are out because there aren't enough people. The sunglasses I really like. With a small group we could have a cool shot of everyone in sunglasses. And the room key holders. That is something that even Doug and I would use. And of course the tumblers! Doug and I already use them and have done for several years, going back to when we went to Cuba in 2006.

 

So..... today I bought my first thing!!!!! lol I found little zippered pouches that will be great for the room key and money. I saw them on here last year I don't even remember who from and they were perfect. I have the wrist coils already from a past bride that was selling her extras so now we actually have "an item"!! woohoo!!  I like the maracas idea too. That's a very easy souvenir for someone to bring home with them so that will be a "yes". Here is the pouch but I can't seem to find the clear one that I ordered. At least I hope I did. So it will work great with the wrist coil.

 

http://www.4imprint.com/search/key%20ring%20zippered%20pouch/product/102936/Key-Ring-Zippered-Pouch

 

 

As it stands we were supposed to be 10. That's now down to 8 so easy peasy to put a couple of little things together. We're likely too old for beach balls lol so i doubt that will get onto the list.

 

Colours

 

I initially wanted turquoise and a coral/salmon colour. My son's girlfriend asked for pink instead so I said ok. My son was going to walk me to wherever we were walking to. As of 3 days ago they've backed out. Again. lol Kids....  Well he isn't really a kid anymore but you ladies will find out that they are your kids forever! Anyway, so now I think I'll just stick with pink. I kind of like it with the turquoise. I want Doug in a turquoise vest and tie with tan. He goes so brown in the summer and tans so well that the turquoise will be great on him. It's also the colour he picked for his tux for our AHR and wow. He looked so sexy..... lol So there was no question about the turquoise!  I want to incorporate both colours into flowers so that they're vibrant and scream colour! lol 

 

I'm a total sucker for roses and callas so that's where I'm thinking right now.

 

 

 

I also want to do the turquoise in a small cake. I have a rough idea what I'm thinking about and Joyce has given me the pricing so it's just a question of figuring out what we need. But something like this except in a nice bright turquoise:

 

 

The one thing I'm torn about is a topper. There is part of me that would love to use our original topper. There is another part of me that says this is a special celebration so do something different. I don't have a decision yet.

 

 

 

DIY

 

All of you ladies are incredible with your DIY. I'm all thumbs. Seriously. But I decided to tackle it and try and have some fun. This is what I came up with. I know I have to say thank you and give credit but I'm a horrible person and don't remember who to!!! Knowing what I do about Mexico I'm thinking a little survival kit with tums and immodium, tylenol, etc. Just the simple basics.

 

SurvivalKit Topper-2.ppt

 

my keycard holder final.ppt

 

 

 

[calgarybride2015]

Etsy is fun!!!! I may have went threw withdrawals

 

Everything you are working on sounds and looks great!!

 

I'm all for turquoise and pink hehehe those flowers were beautiful.

 

Sorry to hear about your son

 

 

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[TinkerSofi]

I really like the second and third bouquet

 

The money pouches will be a great addition. I think your guests will love them. 

[Mrsktobe]

As most of you ladies know I've been married to the love of my life for nearly four years now. I definitely recommend it!! I truly wish for all of you young ladies the same level of happiness that I have if not more. If you have that, you will truly be blessed!

 

This is NOT a planning thread. Mostly because I'm already married and we aren't planning a wedding. BUT!! I do need help for this renewal thing that we're thinking about, and I figure what better place to get opinions on all of my "stuff" than right here. And that's what I need this to be. My sounding board for where my head is at, stupid or otherwise! We're still a long way out. More than 6 months. But I'm trying to put it all in perspective and I'm hoping you ladies will help. I don't want over the top, but I do want special.

 

So... How We Met

 

So what you probably don't know is how I managed to end up with this special guy. Some days I still can't believe it! At my age? Nope. Def was NOT in the cards. As the saying goes.... never say never.

 

We met online. Yes - I joined the ranks of the internet daters, and I wasn't really happy with how it was working out. Anyway the very first thing Doug did was tick me off! He sent me a message with a comment that I completely misinterpreted and fired back a really nasty comment to him! Now he says that's when I hooked him, but I don't believe it. If anything he said he discovered that life with me is never boring! Our first date was after chatting online for 3 weeks and I figured it was safe to meet him in a restaurant. Well, we closed the place, after talking for 4 and a half hours. Turns out we went to rival high schools. He was a year ahead of me but who knows? Maybe I saw him at a football game or something. There were so many other things that we discovered that gave me goosebumps. Our second date 4 days later we talked for about another 6 hours. He invited me over the next day to watch the Nascar race - one of the things we had in common - and said he would cook me brunch and I think that's when I was hooked. A man that cooked!!! My sister was living in Georgia at the time and i had already planned to make the drive down for the nascar race but on a whim I asked Doug if he wanted to come with me to Atlanta. I thought well, with a 16 hour drive, we would either end up together or hate each other. The only thing my sister wanted to know was whether I was bringing an axe murderer to her place but I told her if he wanted to kill me he would have before then. As the saying goes... the rest is history.

 

Getting married was absolutely NOT something either of us wanted. We had both come from marriages that ended really badly. We got along like a house on fire and figured why ruin it? We had both "been there, done that and bought the t-shirt AND bumper sticker". So neither one of us bothered to go after a divorce. There was no reason to. We didn't want to get married again, and it can get really expensive. So we just didn't bother. We bought a house after 7 years together and as usual, there was a ton to do to get settled, one of which was to put shelving up in the garage for all of the "stuff" we had. There was an unspoken rule that neither one of us was going to get rid of anything. You know.... just in case. So we had in some cases more than two of things. Doug got the task of shelf building but pulled a muscle in his neck/shoulder doing it. He was miserable. He walked the floors at night from the pain. The doc put him into physio that didn't do anything, pain killers that didn't help. So they decided on further tests. A CT scan to see if there was something they were missing. Well it turned up more than we bargained for. A mass in his throat that they said was throat cancer. We were both smokers at the time so immediately.... well you get the idea. I got a phone call at work while I was in a meeting so didn't get it until I picked up my voice mail and it was Doug just sobbing on the other end of the line. I could hardly follow what he was saying. I called him back and got the gist of what it was. I honestly didn't know what to do. I called my brother in law to go stay with him and told him I was coming home. Then I went into the ladies room and burst into tears. They sent me home in a cab. Well, long story short it turns out my hubby has an extra set of tonsils!!!! Four weeks later the biopsy results told us what it was. That's when I cried and he couldn't figure out why!! lol He told me it was good news so why was I crying! lol Men!!!

 

What it all brought to the surface though was that if anything really had happened, that I wouldn't be able to do what was necessary if it came to that. It would have been his kids in conjunction with his ex. Nope. So not happening. I told him that I had changed my mind and I didn't want to have either of us have our life come to an end as just boyfriend and girlfriend and that I wanted it to be permanent. He wasn't overly thrilled I will say lol but i think he sort of realized that things can happen when you don't expect it. We went to Mexico about 7 months later and went shopping. I bought a necklace in Diamonds International and I just figured while my back was turned that he was just looking. We got out of the store and I asked him if he wanted to see what I ended up buying and he said sure, then he would show me what he bought. So right outside of the store he just opened the box. A diamond solitaire. All he said was "so you said you want to make it permanent?" Sooooo romantic! lol But he wouldn't let me have it!!!! First of all it was too big and we didn't have time to have it sized there so it had to come home and he told me he would give it to me on Valentines Day. What??? Are you kidding me??? Not a chance buddy. Well we went out for dinner and sure enough I ended up waiting. But it wasn't for two years before we actually started doing something about getting married. I wasn't fussy but I said city hall was ok and he said no. I said no to a church and he said he was thinking about a park somewhere. So I said why not a beach? It just went from there.

 

We got married October 20, 2011 at Gran Bahia Principe Jamaica in Runaway Bay. Gorgeous resort. We loved it and fell in love with the Jamaican people. We were supposed to have had 16 people with us but that all fell apart and it was just the two of us. (That's another story) The wedding coordinators signed our marriage licence and we had a reception at home 2 weeks later. The one thing you ladies will find out as you get older and you have children and they grow up, is that it starts to get very difficult to get a group of people together. Both of our parents are elderly. My mom passed away back in 1973 and my father never remarried. He'll be 94 in May bless him. Our children are grown now with lives of their own and kids of their own. Now they're doing the soccer, and tball and dance classes and gymboree stuff that we did with them all those many years ago. And all 4 of our kids live far away. My family are almost all in the UK and most too elderly to travel. Same with Doug's family. And I've said this I know to most of you - there isn't anyone as happy for you as you are. It's no reflection on you. It's just life. Even more so when you get to our age.

 

We settled in to a routine and our first year went by quickly. I had a mild health issue 7 months after we got married but nothing that concerned us. Until a 9 days before our first anniversary and in some ways our world fell apart. I was rushed into emergency surgery with a massive infection, completely septic.Four hours of surgery later and time in intensive care, the doctor told us how very, very lucky we had been. He said one more day, if Doug hadn't called the ambulance when he did, he said no surgery or antibiotics would have been able to change the outcome. A week later and the infection was back with a vengeance and they did another procedure but punctured my left lung in the process. That brought on the cardiac team. After 3 weeks I went home but was back 2 weeks later with what's called a pulmonary embolism. Back to the cardiac team again. Our first wedding anniversary was celebrated in the hospital. The nurse wrote "happy anniversary" on the board in my room! lol I was off work for 4 months but 3 months later they got rid of my position. I was off work until a month before our second anniversary so no anniversary trip that year either. We swore that for number 3 we would go away back to Jamaica like we planned. God has a funny way of teaching you lessons sometimes though. In January of last year, infection reared its ugly head again. I spent two months on antibiotics trying to clear it up. Doctor said more surgery and I said no. We played the game and he finally put his foot down. I didn't want to lose the new job that I had. But of course there are always consequences for waiting. It was supposed to be a simple procedure. An hour and a half and back to work in about 4 weeks. Yeah right. It turned into four more hours of surgery. And more than a week in the hospital. I was home 6 days and back in again for more infection that ruptured at home. Another ambulance ride. We were just thinking we were on our way and I was back in the hospital again with another pulmonary embolism, this time bigger than the first that completely blocked off the airways of both my lungs. Four days again in the cardiac unit. I was off 10 weeks this time.

 

While all of this was going on, I had started talking to Doug about getting away. I just wanted to go south. Running away doesn't help but I figured if I could just get some breathing space to get my head around everything. So I started looking at places to go. Jamaica was to be saved for our anniversary. And I missed Mexico. We hadn't been for a few years. When the doctor dumped the surgery news on us last year Doug and I were talking and I asked him flat out if even with everything we had been through, if he would still marry me again and he said yes of course! So I told him that's what I wanted to do. I wanted to marry him again because I was still here to be able to do it. I told him I wanted to celebrate the fact that we could still have a life together. His first question was did I think anyone would go with us? I told him I didn't care. If it's just the two of us again, that's fine. He asked me about Jamaica and I decided no. We had tried for 3 years to get back there and maybe we just aren't meant to. I told him I missed Mexico very much and that's where I wanted to go. So, the journey began. But everything hinged on the outcome of the surgery. It was either going to be this year or for our 5th anniversary in 2016 and we wouldn't know until December until we had test results what the next steps would be, if in fact there were going to be any. There is still more surgery ahead but it's minor and it can wait. I have tests I have to have in September this year, and then again next year and if the results are good, then I get to wait 3 years for the next round after that. So this year it is. In October. On our anniversary. And hopefully God says "ok" this time and we don't get any more surprises!

 

The Where?

 

I can sympathize with all of you ladies. Picking a resort started out to just be a "hmmmm where should we go" type of deal. But when we decided that we would renew our vows, I went around and around over several resorts and just when I thought I had a short list, I would find something I didn't like and it would get tossed off the list. I read reviews everywhere I could find them. I knew what I wanted and I wasn't going to compromise but I also figured if anyone did decide to make the trip with us, I didn't want it to break the bank. It's ok for us but I wanted something reasonable for anyone else. And I wanted to be as close as possible to Playa del Carmen. I love that place. We've been before and that's where I got my ring so I wanted to go back. We stayed at Catalonia Royal Tulum, which is now an adults only resort but Doug doesn't want to got back to the same place. I finally got 3 finalists. Azul Fives, Paradisus Playa del Carmen La Perla and Ocean Maya Royale. But I also knew from reading everything I could that a small group, or just the two of us isn't something the resorts like. And when I started looking at costs and seeing what the ladies here go through I knew it wasn't what I wanted. I wanted something simple. No sand. No beach. But a nice location all the same. And I realized that a resort likely wouldn't be able to help out too much with that. I showed the resorts to Doug and he picked Azul Fives. The restaurants were a big draw just because it gives you variety. So wow - we had the resort!

 

When I contacted the travel agent that helped us with our wedding and explained things to her, she right away went on the assumption of a group rate. When I told her we didn't have a group, she recommended waiting for a while before booking. She said the rates right now are really overinflated for October and we should sit tight but that she would watch the bookings for us and if it looked like it was filling up quickly she would let me know.

 

Help

 

From reading these forums I reached out to Joyce at Dream Weddings at the end of the summer last year. I told her the situation and she was great. She made some suggestions that were just what we needed and were perfect for what I was thinking. We couldn't commit though and needed to wait until test results were good. I confirmed to Joyce in January that I wanted her to work with us. But we still didn't have a location.

 

Back to Where?

 

Joyce has been super busy and I didn't hear from her for a while so I went ahead and booked Azul Fives for October 20th. Or at least I thought I had. I didn't hear from them for about 2 weeks and when I did it was with a "confirmation" and a link to my booking site. I logged in and it was all wrong. The time. The location. I immediately sent them an email to find out what had happened. Several days later a phone call. After week I heard and that was to say that the system shouldn't have allowed me to book the beautiful Pier that I wanted so it had stuck me into the garden gazebo at 2:30 in the afternoon. Nope. Not a chance. But that should have been my first tip off. Since then it has been a battle for the where and when. Everything I ask about is already taken. We got the Zky terrace finally for 5 pm with special permission because there is another wedding immediately before and they didn't think they had time to set up. But because we're literally by ourselves, they said they would do it. In other words, there's no set up to do for us. That's ok. It was a compromise. But then I found out that we couldn't get anywhere near the pier or the sky deck for pictures. They're chock full of weddings that day. Even doing pictures before our ceremony time at 5. In between all of this the time change in PDC happened and I went back to AF to try to get 4:30 for our ceremony just as a cushion for pictures before the sun sets. Nope. Can't do that either again because of the wedding before.

 

Last week I emailed Joyce with an SOS and desperation. I think we might finally have a where but I'm just waiting for confirmation. I don't care if I lose the deposit I put down. AF is just too much aggravation. I know it isn't our wedding but this is almost more special and that's what I want it to be. I'll compromise on certain levels but only so far.

 

Photography

 

I started emailing photographers just before I went into the hospital at the end of the summer to get info. I thought I had made a decision on one that I really liked. They had a good deal but totally sucked at returning messages. I was set to meet with them and they cancelled. I know we aren't a big group and I'm not in for spending $3,000 but I still want some nice photos. One of the ladies here suggested Samuel Luna (thanks calgarybride). I emailed him and looked at his website and pricing and was in love with what I saw. So we've booked him to do pictures for us. I was reminded today that a bride here with a very imminent wedding coming up also has him booked so I'm now super anxious to see what he does for her. I'm hoping for good things! (yay Marina!)

 

Hair and Makeup

 

One of the things I learned sort of the hard way was about hair and makeup. I had both done at the spa at our resort in Jamaica and I regretted it. It was so hot in October that I opted to have my hair up. Big mistake. And makeup was a huge disappointment. After just 2 hours the eyeliner was smudgy from the heat and we have pictures that really look awful. I made up my mind that I wanted something much more professional for the renewal. I emailed Styling Trio again at the end of the summer and they replied super quickly. They're expensive but after going through their website and seeing the reviews here, it made up my mind. I'm not 100% certain yet if I'm going to have Adrian. That might be a bit over the top since it's not a wedding. But it's tempting. I opted to go to their location in PDC to avoid the vendor fee at Azul Fives but if we're going to have another location I might rework that if the opening is still available.

 

 

 

So that's about it so far. This is a lot harder than you ladies make it look!!  Please stick comments in anytime. I'm open to ideas. Not saying I'll follow them but I'm definitely open to them. I know flowers a small cake will be done through Joyce and we're going into PDC to a restaurant for a private rooftop dinner after our ceremony, wherever that ends up being! More on that later!

 What a touching story! You two have been through a lot together – made me tear up! It’s so special you are renewing your vows as well. Fantastic to see you are using Joyce, she is so wonderful to work with J

[acw271011]

I said I needed advice and I meant it! lol I'm loving this..... but is it too young for an old lady like me? lol Yes - I'm old. Like it or not, it is what it is. But wow I really like this dress.....

 

 

[calgarybride2015]

It's beautiful. Not sure why you'd think you were too old for it. Just depends if you like showing cleavage? I don't hehe hence the neckline I chose. You will look gorgeous in it.

 

 

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