How To Stress To Guests Must Book Soon. Booking Deadline Soon

[sbodnar4]

Girl I am going through the same thing!

 

Our price will remain the same until we leave however if people do not book by March 9 they will not be guaranteed a spot. So far we have our moms, grammas and my sister confirmed.

 

It is beyong stressful and it really scares me that I booked for at least 40 people and we may not come near that number!!!!

[calgarybride2015]

I think we all have those. I guess some people just like to avoid things. I wonder how they function at work. For one of them we said " since you havent responded we're assuming you can't come which is fine but please just let us know because we are ordering stuff" that seemed to work bc then they didn't feel as guilty for saying no ?

So what after the wedding it's friends on again? Not. I don't get people.

 

 

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[snswedding2016]

I also had a similar situation, I was trying not to get too worried about it as my TA kept telling me from day 1 that your guests will always wait until the last couple of days before the deposit is due to book.

 

My fiancé and I used paperless post for our invites, it was efficient, had what we needed and allowed us to track everyone's RSVP online (we could see when people opened the invite) and send out messages. This came in handy when we were a month before our deposit deadline. I sent out a reminder message to just those who were marked as "Attending" and those who had just opened the invite but hadn't RSVP'd and left out those who sent their "Regrets". Before I sent this out we had two deposits and the week after I sent out the reminder the rest of our room block was booked! It can happen ladies, sometimes they'll surprise you.

 

It really shocked my TA - lol. We did run into a different problem though, our rooms were going so quickly and we found out that our resort sold out of that room category for our dates. I scrambled to text all my close family and bridal party to get their rooms asap and most of them did. 

 

Now we're about 2 weeks from our deadline and we don't have any more rooms held. Luckily the resort released a couple more rooms (my TA has been calling everyday about it-love her!). I'm a little worried that some of our stragglers will be stuck paying a lot more for suites but hey the "early bird gets the worm". 

[nadiakat17]

@@calgarybride2015 nope. We just wanted the people who said they were coming and actually had a room on hold to admit they weren't so we could release their room. At that point we honesstly didn't even want them to come since they were so rude. These people were mostly my FIs friends who has a higher tolerance than me but I told him I don't want to invite them to my AHR , go to their weddings etc and he agrees. They are his friends from high school so he rarely sees them anyways ( we did go to Europe to visit one however!)

[calgarybride2015]

@@calgarybride2015 nope. We just wanted the people who said they were coming and actually had a room on hold to admit they weren't so we could release their room. At that point we honesstly didn't even want them to come since they were so rude. These people were mostly my FIs friends who has a higher tolerance than me but I told him I don't want to invite them to my AHR , go to their weddings etc and he agrees. They are his friends from high school so he rarely sees them anyways ( we did go to Europe to visit one however!)

It is rude. I makes no sense to me, especially when you ask a direct question and get no response. I lost a few friendships since being engaged - one whom I thought was my best friend. But since I walked away from the madness I don't feel I've lost anything in my life which says a lot. I've decided to focus on the ones who did come and/or couldn't but still Hugely supported us as they are the ones worth the time and effort.

 

 

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Edited January 28, 2015 by calgarybride2015

[JJCB0418]

I think all brides experience this.  I sent out my invitations in October with a December rsvp (Save the Dates were sent in May) and I started checking my mailbox everyday, like anxious to get home from work to check the mail!  I didn't start making calls and sending text messages until 2 weeks before and I just let reminded them of the deposit deadline and informed them that after that date the rates wouldn't be the same.  After that, it was up to them...most will wait until the final hour.

 

Don't stress though!  I assumed a couple of friends of mine wouldn't be coming since they are also getting married this year, and they just told me last week that they can come.  They won't get the rate and we still had to pay the penalty for dropping rooms that weren't booked, but I'm so happy they are coming.  People will surprise you, both happy and sad surprises.....it just comes with the DW territory.

[misbosox]

I'm trying not to.   Its just really hurting my fiancé cuz these are the ones that have been blabbing to everyone how excited they are about going kept talking about it all the time and now aren't. Or at least saying they aren't.   My brother can't go and would love to have him there but I know he couldn't afford it.  Its understandable.   the only issue we have now is not enough time to do our own wedding stuff: register, shower, parties, still have to pick out our rings,  etc.   Starting next month up until May we are swapped with everyone else's wedding stuff to go to.  Everything is out of state.  

[LisaAnthonyPoppy]

@@misbosox you have time to do the things you make time for. If you need to register go register, it only takes a day. If you need to have a shower look at what works best, again it might not be perfect but works best. You got this. You can do it.

[BecomingaRiggio]

At the end of the day, your wedding will still be a special intimate experience for those who are choosing to attend. I know it is tough, but try to keep positive thoughts. To be honest, i was one of the last minute bookers for my sisters destination wedding. I kept saying ya ya ill be there. Some of her guests had to stay at another resort. My TA would send me little emails like "hi, we only have 6 rooms left in the room block and hotel is almost at capacity. I would hate for your guests to miss out and have to stay at another resort." Not exact wording, but like a little teaser. Then i forwarded that email out. To create urgency.

[tan38]

My frustration is .. We told people back in June 2014 that we were having a DW in Jan/Feb 2016 .. Almost 2 whole years in advance .. "Start saving your toonies" (A Canadian $2 coin).. We now have booked our resort, gotten pricing etc. .. and given people 6 weeks to put a deposit down .. I am getting people (my sister) saying "We don't have the $$ for the deposit" ..

 

I told everyone back in June we were doing this and you didn't bother to save?? YET went on a cruise in December and were planning on a last minute trip in January that they didn't end up going on .. You can afford to do those things YET do not have the $$ for the deposit for your own sisters wedding .... *Sigh* .. And my other sister hasn't replied to any of the correspondence .. Not a peep!  

 

I realize people have time but when you have given them so much notice and they didn't bother to prepare .. its upsetting ..

 

Vent over ..