Can Mother In Law Be Matron Of Honor?

cfinkenbine · October 31, 2014

Long story short, my best friend of almost 10 years, who has already accepted my proposal to be my MOH, is now complaining all the time about how she cannot afford to go to Mexico. While I disagree with her spending, and choosing to go to an expensive college, if she cannot go I have to have a back up plan. She is not making saving money a priority. My other best friend, is my mother in law. She is like the mother I never had growing up. As none of my other friends are able to make the trip to Mexico, would it be acceptable to have my mother in law as my MOH? Thank you all for the advice, it has definitely been stressful for me not knowing if my best friend will be able to make the trip.

Edited October 31, 2014 by cfinkenbine

kmk2016 · October 31, 2014

I think it would be a beautiful demonstration of your connection to your future MiL and she most definitely can stand up as your MoH if your current one bails!!! I think it's fantastic!

Kayla88 · October 31, 2014

I think that is 100% acceptable and it shows the great bond that you have with your future mother in law. Your very lucky to have that amazing relationship so why not celebrate it

cfinkenbine · November 2, 2014

Thank you both for the replies! I just hope people do not think that is strange! Lol

GingerBride · November 2, 2014

Do it! I think it is a wonderful choice Shows how much she means to you.

Perhaps I would even put it out there to your current MOH and say, if you are unable to save up and make the trip for my special day I have someone else that is willing to stand up for me. This way you take pressure off of her (she has an out) and you take a whole load of stress off of you!!

I found for us our deadline was pretty short for people to make a down payment. In Canada we have a 90 window. I was freaking out the last two weeks of the 90 days but I'm happy to say everyone waited to the very last minute to make a down payment and book. When you think about it people like to hold on to their money right until the very last minute. Maybe your current MOH isn't aware that she can pay this trip off in installments?

So have you heard more from the wedding coordinator at Barcelo? I still haven't heard anything sigh...

nattiegams325 · December 8, 2014

I think that is wonderful! You are very lucky to have such a great FMIL.

Moments That Matter · December 9, 2014

What an beautiful way to honor your amazing family connection - Yes! is my "vote" Sounds like both of you are very lucky to have each other in your lives - what a great way to start off your new family!!!

Wishing you all the best with the rest of your plans - cheers!!! team MTM

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