First Dance - Plans For All You Ladies?

[KAT2015]

I'm just wondering what everyone is doing with regards for their first dance??? Not music wise necessarily - but are you going to take lessons, or do a choreographed routine of some sort?

 

Maybe I'm crazy, but I just love the idea of waltzing with my new husband.... so romantic, and really will make us work together as a team.  Plus he barely 'sways' when slow dancing sooo... 

[kmk2016]

My FI hates being the centre of attention and only hits the dance floor after a few drinks... I find the whole "everyone stare at us as we pretend to have this quiet moment together as we dance" totally akward and staged (for me) so we aren't doing one! No "scheduled dances" at all actually, it will be dinner with a few speeches and then hit the dance floor, get the drinks flowing and let the party start!

 

It's my second marriage so my dad won't be crushed that he doesn't have the father/daughter dance... And I'm sure we will dance together over the course of the night- but I don't like the feel for the "required dances"... It usually results in a bunch of bored people sitting around wondering when THEY can dance! Haha

Edited August 6, 2014 by kmk2016

[Vika]

we were thinking about taking dance classes and choreographing a dance, but then we decided that we wanted to enjoy our first dance as husband and wife instead of worrying that we will mess up a move

[KAT2015]

@@Vika - I hear you - I don't think I'd want to choreograph one, but I am leaning towards learning some basic steps (through YouTube maybe) so we can move more than in a 2x2 square!  

 

@@kmk2016 - My FI wants the dance but hates being the centre of attention (and dancing!).  I thought some structure so he didn't feel like a dunce would help  As for the father/daughter mother/son dances, I don't even know if we are doing them. I haven't spoken to my father in 13 years, and I don't know if my FI will want to dance with his mum in front of everyone. I think he may just ask her to dance during the reception.

[Sabes44]

We are still deciding on this as well.  We are forgoing a lot of the traditional wedding stuff and I don't think we will end up even having a dj at our reception.  But we are just planning on going to the disco or somewhere after the reception to dance.  Its his second marriage and I am not sure if I care about a first dance.  Although if I did, I would love to take lessons and do a real dance!

[Icis]

We are keeping it a secret to all our guests, but we got a choreographer set up a dance routine for us. We will post a video once we have the routine down.

[tehopper]

I was also wondering what people did with this tradition at destination weddings. My parents divorced when I was really young and I don't have a good relationship with my dad (but he will be invited). My step-dad will also be there and I'm actually much closer to him, but with them both there I don't feel like I could choose one as my real "father" and if I did it would be my step-dad. But I've decided I really wanted to avoid a father-daughter dance.

However my FI is really close with his mom, so I was struggling with how to do it where he could do something that would include her, but not force me to choose a dad. I was thinking just me and my hubby have a short dance and stop there, but will that seem like something is obviously missing? Maybe just ask her to dance later in the party like someone mentioned? Any other ideas?

Or I might eliminate the tradition all together and just dance at the party.

And don't get me started on walking down the aisle... a whole other problem. I think I'll have my brother do it though.

[KAT2015]

I was also wondering what people did with this tradition at destination weddings. My parents divorced when I was really young and I don't have a good relationship with my dad (but he will be invited). My step-dad will also be there and I'm actually much closer to him, but with them both there I don't feel like I could choose one as my real "father" and if I did it would be my step-dad. But I've decided I really wanted to avoid a father-daughter dance.

However my FI is really close with his mom, so I was struggling with how to do it where he could do something that would include her, but not force me to choose a dad. I was thinking just me and my hubby have a short dance and stop there, but will that seem like something is obviously missing? Maybe just ask her to dance later in the party like someone mentioned? Any other ideas?

Or I might eliminate the tradition all together and just dance at the party.

And don't get me started on walking down the aisle... a whole other problem. I think I'll have my brother do it though.

I hear you on those issues @@tehopper...

My father has been out of my life for 13 years and is NOT invited.  So I definitely won't do that dance.  However, when it comes to my FI and his mum, I will let him decide what he chooses to do.  Perhaps after our first dance, we should have another song that they start but everyone else joins in after?   That way, I can dance with his dad, my mum with her fiance, and so on and so forth.  By the end everyone should be up and dancing - maybe even mix a song to go right into a party tune?

 

As for walking down the aisle - I'm having my mum do it

[ctlind7]

My FI barely dances, he cringes at the thought of dancing and I love to dance, so we are doing the traditional 1st dance and then having everyone join in!

[chelseapaige37]

We are not choreographing or taking lessons. I've seen too many ppl who have done it and they just look stressed out trying to remember the steps instead of enjoying the fance