Sister In Law- Pregnant- Helpppp

[BusyBee280]

Some of this may just be to vent, but I reallly really NEED to vent.

 

My FI's family has had a lot of drama in the past year, they are planning to expand the business, which is forcing the business to search for land, and us to live in whatever house is on it (and PAY for it!) All of the children (theres three siblings) will end up paying for it. While I was upset that my dream of searching for a home to buy is out the window, I got over it-

 

Now, we just found out that his sister is pregnant with her first child. The father is a dead beat, and already has a child that hes not around for. BUT she just found out that shes so far along that its going to prevent her from coming to our wedding.. She said that an estimated time of getting pregnant would be March, and we are getting married in November! Her due date will be less than a month after our wedding, and now I'm worried that his mother and grandmother wont come either due to this new baby possibly being born while we are away.

 

His family is the only reason that we decided to do a wedding, because I knew that his mother and father would want to be there (my family is really indiferent about eachother).

 

Anyone ever been in a situation like this before? Do you think that his parents would really bail out on our wedding??

[acw271011]

If it's any consolation.... first babies don't usually arrive on time!! Not sure if that's good news or not. Is this a first grandchild too as well as her first baby? How close are the relationships? There are so many factors that come into play here that it's hard to say who might do what. Without know the family dynamic nobody can say either way if they would bail on the wedding or not.

 

It sounds like maybe there needs to be a family sit down and get everything out in the open and see who is willing to do what and what all the considerations are. It's timing also that is impossible to predict.

 

All I can say is good luck!

[BusyBee280]

Yes, this will be the first grandchild of the family.

 

The family is very close- they run a business together and grew up very close. Jason's brother is his twin, and his younger sister (the pregnant one) is close with them as well.

 

I do worry about them bailing, but I also worry about feeling crappy that she probably won't be able to attend.

[calgarybride2015]

That's a tough situation. After 36 weeks pregnant most airlines won't let a pregnant lady fly even if she wanted too.

 

I would assume atleast her mom would stay back if anyone did. If it's 4 weeks they may all come because the chances of her delivering early aren't high but I can't say Forsure what they'd do.

 

I think it's worth a sit down and figure it all out. Good luck.

 

 

 

 

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[ctlind7]

My BM is preggers and I flat out told her not to come. It's her first pregnancy and I know she wants to be there but the baby will possibly be weeks old. She was actually considering coming and I was like no, no way in hell because if something happened, getting back to the States and all. I didn't want to feel guilty about it. 

[fashionleader]

I think the child will birth after you wedding,so their parents will help make the wedding ceremony.So be relax.

[xxalex18]

Quite often first time mothers go over their due date. So hopefully his family can do both 

[KaraEbeth]

Lol I am going through the exact same thing! My sister in-law and her husband were going to be in our wedding party and suddenly they decided they weren't coming it was too expensive, blah blah. Then she announces she is pregnant with their fourth child (this is after her doctor told her after the 2nd one, he would recommend she not have more because pregnancy is too much on her body..she gets very sick etc)...would you like to know her due date?! The day before our wedding! Maybe I shouldn't be annoyed about it but I am, can we have our time to shine for once? My MIL is also not happy about it but that's a whole new can of worms to open....lol. I love this site Im so glad I'm not the only one dealing with this type of stuff.

[nattiegams325]

Omg the same thing happened to me. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who felt annoyed because I kept thinking...am I being selfish? My future sister in law is due 2 days before the wedding. Like...did she not know the consequences of her actions? Ugh. I was/am so aggravated. I was extremely worried that the future parent in laws might not be there, but they made it very clear that our wedding is the priority and will not miss it. They were also upset to hear their daughter was pregnant. Which is so sad bc it's their first grandchild and this should be a joyous time. That's life I guess :-/

[BrideToBeJolie]

Have her find out her due date.  As other mentioned, some airlines won't even let pregnant women fly after 36 weeks.  

 

At the end of the day, it is up to her to make the decision based what the best, and healthiest, option will be.  With so much great technology these days, you can always skype her in or video stream the wedding to her so she can feel like she's there.