Can I coordinate what guests wear!??!?!

[shannon]

 

Hey everyone! - We are having a "small, intimate" ceremony at EDR in Mexico--- approx 20-25 guests will be there -def no more than 30....We aren't having anyone "stand" up there with us-- we are kinda considering all of our guests our wedding party--and have informed the photog we, of course, want pictures w/ just me and groom but also want all of guests on lots of the pictures- in "formal" pictures and in "fun" pictures...

 

My FI thinks I'm being "controlling" -but I know I've heard of people doing this-- can we ask the guests to wear to the wedding, clothes that have similiar or compatible colors?!?!

 

We are mailing a tourist book to each house that is booked for wedding in March- w/ travel tips and wedding itinerary, etc -to get everyone excited... -can I put in there to please wear white,turquoise blue, red, or yellow- to the wedding?- is that too much? -if not, how would you word it?

 

Thanks for any help!!

[Saraha]

Def. I think thats a cute idea... I would just say something about a theme for those colors.... thats a lot of colors to choose from so its not like they wont be able to find anything.

[rodent]

I think it's fine. You are giving them enough color choices. I'd clarify it a little. If I was a guy I'd wonder if khaki pants with a red shirt is OK or if I need to get white pants. I think allowing khaki pants is good, because most guys already have them. If they had to go buy white pants, they probably wouldn't wear them again.

 

The occasional guest might get upset, but also a lot of guest will love it. They will get great pictures out of it too.

[michelle08]

I agree, I think it's a great idea and you are offering them enough colors to choose from and they aren't not off the wall colors so they should be comfortable in what you have selected.

 

But yeah make sure you request it in a way that isn't demanding and more fun and exicted like explaining the theme, etc...

[shannon]

Awesome- thanks guys!! - yes, I was definitely picturing the guys in khaki pants--- awesome- I told my FI I was going to check with my other brides-- that he was already out-voted-- I think most of his boys/friends will be glad to have some direction with what to wear- hehe...

[Christine]

I think quite a few people have mentioned things like this, like "please consider wearing shades of white, or please consider beach attire in shades of ....

[anaderoux]

I think it isn't too much to ask.. I asked them to wear only white and they did..

[StephanieMN]

I heard someone mention that they liked being told what to wear so they didn't have to guess. Took the thinking out of it. I would suggesting stating casual or dressy.

[Copita]

Just say, We request that you wear the colors... etc...

 

I love this idea and am thinking about doing this myself. I want mine to wear beige/cream. Yay for weddings!

[starchild]

For us, I know some of our guests would have been annoyed by it. I can hear them now complaining about leaving the country to go to our wedding and then being told what to wear when they got there. Everyone probably would have done it though, but not without some grumbling.

 

If someone asked me to do that for their wedding I would totally be into it, DH would probably talk bad about it and only do it at my urging...lol It's your event so if that's what you want go for it, asking in a nice way of course.